Dr. B's New Schedule of Group Sessions IS CHANGING again. Check it out!

PLEASE NOTE:  This Is the New DV Treatment Group Schedule.  In the future, it may change.  Be Sure To Read This Entire Post and Form Here, Click on all of the Links (below), Complete of the Linked Forms that these Links lead to, and Follow the Instructions Below throughout your DV Treatment. Thank you!

(This NEW Schedule of Groups Begins November 9th, 2022.)

 Please read these Top Ten Essentials:

1. TREATMENT SETTINGS: Please NOTE: (All of Dr. B's DV Treatment Sessions are In-Person at this point in time except for those persons who due to serious Disability or other debilitating circumstances that make it literally impossible for this person to attend In-Person.  In order to conduct any sessions remotely (as of October 1, 2022) both Dr. B and the Client must have special equipment and software.  If any remote sessions are scheduled, this must be by Special Prior Arrangement with Dr. B and they will be billed at the higher Individual Session Rate.)  

2. JUMPING GROUPS: If you are planning to start attending a Group that you have never attended, or if you are planning to attend a Group that you normally do not attend, please try to let Dr. B know about this at least 24 hours in advance of that Group Session.  And please do so via Text message.  

3. IN-PERSON GROUP DISCLOSURE: It is important that if attending an In-person Group that you complete this In-Person Group Session Attendance Disclosure & Consent Form prior to attending).

4. GROUP LOCATIONS: If you plan to attend one of these Groups and you do not know where they are, please TEXT Dr. B. and he will send you the address.

5. COMPLETING WORKSHEETS: Please note that regardless of how a person attends any DV Session, she/he is responsible for completing the Worksheet(s) for that DV Session online on that day.  The link for Worksheets is typically at or near the bottom of the Blog Entry for that week.  So every time you attend a Group, you will be expected to complete the weekly DV Topic Worksheet (typically done online) that will be Linked to the Weekly Topic on the Blog which can be found at this Link here: Dr Bs DV Prevention & Education Blog or  at https://drbsdvpreventionandeducation.blogspot.com/   It is your responsibility to get these done every week.  If you have a challenge that makes it impossible for you to complete your work this way; or if you need help learning how to do this, it is your responsibility to get help from someone you know with this task, or to TEXT Dr. B and get help with this task.  It is important that you understand that if these worksheets are not completed, you cannot complete your DV Treatment. 

6. SESSION FEEDBACK FORMS: Each Time you Attend a DV Treatment Session, you will also be required to complete a Session Feedback Form (typically done online) that can be found on the Blog anywhere you find an American Flag on this Blog, or AT THIS LINK RIGHT HERE.  Or just go the Link listed below: https://drbsdvpreventionandeducation.blogspot.com/2020/04/thank-you-for-visiting-dr-bs-dv.html  Sometimes -- but rarely --  Worksheets and Feedback forms can be completed on paper if provided by Dr. Beverly.  Either way, it is your responsibility to see that your weekly Worksheets and Feedback Forms are completed before you finish your DV Treatment. It is your responsibility to get these done every week.  If these are not completed, you cannot complete your DV Treatment.

7. PAYING FOR YOUR TREATMENT SESSIONS: Please also note that regardless of how a person attends any DV Session, she/he is also responsible for paying the fee for the Group Session online or in-person at the time of the Session.  Every client is required to pay for their DV Treatment Services every week as they attend.  Please CLICK THIS LINK RIGHT HERE to learn about how to pay for your DV Treatment, or just go to this Link listed here. https://drbsdvpreventionandeducation.blogspot.com/2022/01/very-important-notice-about-paying-for.html   If these payments are not made in full, you cannot complete your DV Treatment.

8. ABSENCES: Also, if you miss a week of DV Treatment, you are required to complete an Absence Attestation form which is AT THIS LINK RIGHT HERE, or may also be located by using this Link listed here: https://drbsdvpreventionandeducation.blogspot.com/2020/05/absence-attestation-complete-your.html  If these attestations are not completed, you cannot complete your DV Treatment.  Also Please Note: Once you start attending one of these Groups, it is best if you stick with the same Group throughout your Treatment.  It is also best to NOT miss more than 2 Sessions throughout the course of your treatment.  Anyone with 3 or more absences may be subject to involuntary discharge.

9. YOUR RESPONSIBILITY: You should know about, understand and do every task as described above every week.  This is your responsibility.  If you get behind, it is your responsibility to keep up with where you are.  And it is your responsibility to catch up right away..

10. ALWAYS BE RESPECTFUL: Please keep in mind that this DV Treatment is being provided by skilled professionals with the intent of helping you improve your life, improve your relationships, and complete your Court, Probation, Diversion or Parole requirements.  Please always be respectful to Staff, Fellow Clients, and the Facility.  And please remember that confidentiality about who you see here and what they say here while in Group Sessions is an essential part of showing Respect.  Thank you.

Misc FORM LINKS: Please complete the following forms BEFORE attending any more DV Sessions:  The Top 10 Treatment Essentials Agreement. Group Treatment Consent Form and the Making Payments and Settling Balances Agreement.  <<< DV Session Feedback Form >>>.  All Clients are Required to complete these forms found at these link on this page. As a Reminder: Be prepared to pay for your Treatment when you arrive at the Location (Card or Cash).  If you have any other questions about Paying for Your Treatment Sessions, please CLICK HERE.  Also, please find these links and more at the bottom of this page and at various other places on this BLOG.

Thank you.

NEW Schedule of Dr. B's DV Groups (as of November 9th, 2022):

Mondays:

-- WOMEN's Walsenburg Mon. Afternoon DV Group (In-Person)  [Mondays at 10 a.m. to 11:30 a.m.]

-- MEN's Trinidad Mon. Afternoon DV Group (In-Person)  [Mondays at 1 to 2:30 p.m.]

-- WOMEN's Trinidad Mon. Evening DV Group (In-Person)  [Mondays at 6 to 7:30 p.m.]

Tuesdays:

-- WOMEN's Monte Vista Tues. Afternoon DV Group (In-Person Only)  [Tuesdays at 2 to 3:30 p.m.]

-- MEN's Monte Vista Tues. Early Evening DV Group (In-Person). [Tuesdays at 4 to 5:30 p.m.]

-- MEN's Alamosa Tues. Evening DV Group (In-Person). 

[Tuesdays at 7 to 8:30 p.m.]

Wednesdays: 

-- MEN's Alamosa Weds. Morning DV Group (In Person.) [Wednesdays at 9 am to 10:30 a.m.)]

-- WOMEN's Alamosa Weds. Afternoon DV      

Group (In Person). [Wednesdays 1 to 2:30 p.m.] 

-- MEN's Alamosa Weds. Evening DV Group (In Person).  

[Wednesdays 6 p.m.. to 7:30 p.m.]    

Thursdays:

-- MEN's Walsenburg Thurs. Evening DV Group (In-Person).  [Thurs 7 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.]

Fridays:

-- MEN's Trinidad Fri. Evening DV Group (In-Person).  [Fri. from 7:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.]

Feel free to Text Dr. B. if you have any questions after completing each of the forms below:

CLICK HERE TO COMPLETE The Top 10 Treatment Essentials Agreement

  *** Please click on this Link Here in order to Review

and Complete the NEW Group Consent Form. *** 

>>> And ALSO, Please Click Here to Complete the 

Paying for DV Treatment and Paying Balances Form. <<<

<<< DV Session Feedback Form >>>

(Post Revised 11/09/2022; Originally Published Tuesday, September 14, 2021)

Dr. B's DV Prevention Topic & Worksheets List and Links to Mandatory Worksheets (Partial): Remember, In order to successfully complete Dr. B's DV Prevention Class, everyone must complete and submit all of the Worksheets listed below.

 Dr. B's DV Prevention Worksheets List (Partial)

(This List Currently Includes Links going back through June 2022)

  (DO NOT WAIT to get this done.  For every week there is at least one worksheet that must be completed and successfully submitted.  You may ask for Help; but DO NOT Ask Dr. B which ones you have already done or have not yet done.  If you are unsure, then do them all.  There is at least one due per week.  You are responsible for knowing that.  The Worksheets are mentioned every week as they are listed below each Blog Topic and also mentioned by the Facilitator.  This is your responsibility. 

  Be sure to check the Blog every week around Monday Evening and you will find the current week's Lesson as well as the Worksheet that is due by the end of the week.  Click on the on the Worksheet and complete it by Sunday or as soon as you can.

  When you click on the Topic Title Link below for each Weekly Topic, you will find the information about that Topic.  After you have gone to that link, at or near the bottom of that topic's text, you will find the Link to the Worksheet for that Topic highlighted in Yellow.  

  So just click on the Titles below and you will find the that Weekly Topic and below the text, you will find that weekly topic's Link to the corresponding Worksheet.

  You can do this!  So get busy!

  If you have questions about how to complete these Worksheets then send Dr. B. a Text Message at 719-671-7793 and he will help you.)

Some Links to Recent Weekly Topics and Worksheets are listed below:

Topic and Worksheet Link: "It Really is all About Power and Control, Right?  What would you do if...?"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The  Topics & The WORKSHEET LINKs>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Want to Successfully Complete your DV Treatment and your Probation? Okay, 1st things First."

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Building On Individual Values And A Personal Mission Statement For Domestic Violence Prevention"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Click Here to Complete a Weekly Session Feedback Form.  Hint: You should be doing one of these every single week while in this DV Program."

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Using Our Virtues to Prevent Domestic Violence"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "A Slightly Different Look At Risk Factors That Could Help Us Prevent Domestic Violence (A Mandatory Exercise for ALL DV Clients): Hint, You Should Be Completing At Least One of These Forms Every few months."

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Absence Attestation Form: Hint, You Should Be Completing one of these Absence Forms every time you miss a week of DV Treatment.  This is required in order to Successfully Complete DV Treatment."

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "If You Have an Unpaid Balance, Start Paying Today or Risk Falling Behind!!! (Payment Instructions Below!)"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Taking Time Outs: A Great Tool for Helping Keep Potential Domestic Violence Victims from Being Harmed; And an Effective Tool for Helping Keep A Potential Domestic Violence Offender from Becoming A Person with a Domestic Violence Offense"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Click Here to Complete a Control Log Worksheet!"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Treatment Planning for Success in DV Treatment Click Here to Complete a Treatment Plan: Hint, you should be completing a Treatment Plan every 2-to-3 Months while in DV Treatment.  You cannot Successfully Complete DV Treatment without these Treatment Plans."

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Personal Change Plan Form: Please Click Here to Complete a Periodic Personal Change Plan: You should completing one of these at least every 2 Months while in DV Treatment.  You have to have these to Successfully Complete Your DV Treatment."

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Post Empathy Panel Worksheet"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Aftercare Plan: Short Version.  You should be completing one of these at least every 3 Months while in DV Treatment -- particularly toward the end of your DV Treatment.  These are necessary in order to successfully complete DV Treatment."

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "STOP, BREATHE, FOCUS, RELAX, REFLECT and CHOOSE WISELY"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "In Order For Me To Successfully Complete DV Treatment and Fly On Out Of Here, I MUST be able to Check Off Every One of the Following Items: Click Here to See Some of Them"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Understanding DV from a Trauma-Informed Perspective"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Recognizing My Cognitive Distortions to Prevent Domestic Violence Thinking and Behaving"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "VERY IMPORTANT NOTICE ABOUT PAYING FOR DV TREATMENT -- GOING BACK to Pre-COVID Pay-As-You-Go Rules"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "DV In The News: Recent Stories"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Effects of Domestic Violence On Children"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Balancing Our Empathy for a Partner WITH Our Own Needs -- Particularly During Troubling Times: The Value of Collaboration Through Negotiation and Fairness"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Empathy Recognition and It's Potential Role in Preventing Domestic Violence"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Positive Psychology and Prevention of Domestic Violence: Knowing our Social, Emotional, Behavioral and Personality Strengths That Might Help Us Have Healthier Relationships"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Understanding the Red Flags for Domestic Violence in order to Prevent Domestic Violence Before it Happens"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Financial Responsibility, Financial Abuse, Economic Abuse and Domestic Violence"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Please Click Here to Read About Your Pay-As-You-Go Policy for Successful and Timely Completion of Your DV Treatment."

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Recognizing, Respecting and Setting Boundaries for Healthy Relationships"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Moving from Being Considered the "Offender" in a Domestic Violence Case, (yet Feeling Like a Victim); Toward Becoming an Accountable Survivor"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "The Domestic Violence Treatment Progress Assessment (or the D.V.T.P.A.): Great Practice for Successfully Completing DV Treatment"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Treatment Planning for Success"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Checking My Personal Patterns Of Power and Control Behaviors and/or Domestic Violence"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Potential Risk Factors for DV: Identify Items that Might Be Relevant to Your DV Troubles"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Developing Ownership of Your DV Treatment & Your Future: What is Your Explanatory Model?"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Risk Factors for DV Re-Offense or DV Recidivism"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "STRESS and DOMESTIC VIOLENCE"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "You Would Like To Have A Healthy Relationship, Right? Ever Seriously Consider Equality -- In-Depth?"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "The Power of Respect When it Comes to Prevention of Domestic Violence"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

Topic and Worksheet Link: "Make an Emergency Toolkit in Order to Prevent Domestic Violence"

<<< PLEASE SCROLL DOWN For The NEXT TOPIC & WORKSHEET LINK>>>

*** More Topic Links (going backwards) will be added as time permits.  But for now, please just do yourself a favor and start working on each of the ones above right away so that your completion of this DV Treatment Program will not be delayed.

Partner Qualities: What Type of Person am I? And What Type of Person Would I Like to Have in my Life? What do I really need in a Relationship?

  Sometimes the person who we are when we first meet someone is a good bit different from the person we become while in a relationship.  Sometimes this might be good.  But other times -- all too many times -- this can be tragic.

  Did you ever wish you could stop and really exam how you are in Relationships?  Or even look at how your prospective partners might be in a Relationship -- before you get into the relationship with them?  If you answer is "No", then realize that this is a pretty natural thing.  It is natural for humans to want to find mates.  And sometimes we feel so awful without a mate that we are not as selective or choosy as we should be.

  Hence, we end up in trouble -- sometimes BIG Trouble!

  If you don't like getting into trouble, then perhaps it could it be beneficial to develop some good insights into why your relationships sometimes turn out the way they do -- whether good or bad?

  And it seems logical to assume that one of the greatest influences on how we behave in relationships could have something to do with the kind of person we are.  Or with the type of person we are -- if there is a difference.

  So whether I am already in a Relationship; or I am not currently in a Relationship but I want- or don't want to be in that Relationship; questions around the idea of What Type of Person I am; and What Type of Person I might like to have in my life can be very important.  Exploring this might help us out for a number of reasons.  It could definitely give us some useful insights.

  Did you ever really stopped to think: What Type of Person am I?  When I am in a Relationship, do I tend to feel, think, react or act in certain ways that either encourage the relationship to last; or even destroy the relationship?  A very honest look at this can quite possibly bring a bounty of wisdom.

  But then we really must remember that it takes two to have a relationship.  So it's not only about me and how I think, feel and behave.  But it's also about my partner and how they are.

  All this begs the question: What Type of Person am I?  What Type of Person Would I Like to Have in my Life?  And what exactly do I need in a Relationship?

  Like am I the type of person that brings out the furious anger in a mate?  -- Not that it's my fault if they are abusive though.  Do I just tendency to push a few too many buttons sometimes?

  Or am I a person who is easy to love on a daily basis?

  Think about it:  What kind of person are you?  Are you easy to live with?  Are you an easy lover?  Or Are you difficult to handle?  If so, do want change that?  The first step to changing anything is to have a good understanding of what is going on.

Or, Look at it This Way:  Another related set of important questions could be:   

  What kind of person would you like to have in your life?  One who is easy to live with?  One who is an easy lover?  Or one who is difficult to handle?

  Then ask -- what are some of the characteristics of a person (self or other) who is Easy to live with for you?  

  Or ask -- what are some of the characteristics of a person (like you) who is Easy to live with for you?

  In other words: What do I really want a person to be like that I would want to get involved with? 

  And then ask, What would that person want me to be like if we were in a relationship?

 After this, one can even go on to think about what exactly do I feel like I need in a Relationship?  And other things like that as well.

  Thinking about these things before diving deeper into an existing relationship; or before striking up a new relationship might help us to avoid pitfalls as well as help us to have better relationships in the future.

Relationship-Related Qualities (Good and Bad) That Some People tend to have:

  Try this Partial List of Relationship-Related Qualities (good and bad) that some people tend to have in Relationships.  Then for each quality ask yourself: 

•   Does this quality describe me and how I am in a Relationship?  And...

•   Does this quality describe the kind of person I would like to be with in a Relationship?

Industrious

Creative

Follower

Leader

Lover

Hater

Freaky

Straight Edge

Worker

Parent

Adult Child

Brutally Honest

Nice

Helper 

Martyr

Very Serious

Jokester

Really Smart

Destructive

Neat-Freak

Slob

Collector

Hippie

Delicate

Durable

Dancer

Courageous

Narrow-Focused

Broad-Minded

Sex-Appeal

Passive

Aggressive

Straight Up

Religious / Spiritual

Daddy's Girl / Mama's Boy

Independent

Talented

Easy-Going

Futuristic

Frugal

Wasteful

Dwells on the Past

Forgiving

Humble

Fretful

Confident

Generous

Stingy

Punctual

Lackadaisical

Motivated

Waiting for to be told what to do

A Real Go-Getter

A Disappointment

Cheater

Attractive or Cute

Loyal

Political

Single-Minded

Foolish

Wise

Prideful

Lazy

Modest

  So First, we go through this list (or another list -- you can add to it if you like) and we figure out some good information about who we are.

  And then next, we go through and think about who we really want in our life?

  This is probably a useful exercise because some people an be extremely easy to get along with at first.  But once they get into a relationship, they can be really hard to deal with.  And it really does not have to be that way.

  In other words, it can be heartbreaking when one learns that person they got involved with is nothing like the person who they thought they were in the beginning.  

So Again: Think About It.  What type of person are you in relationships?  And what type of person would you like to be with in a relationship?

*** Click Here to Complete Your 

Qualities of Self and Partners 

in Relationships Worksheet ***