This week we are going to discuss how our Virtues can help prevent Domestic Violence Type Thinking, DV Type Feeling, and DV Type Behaviors.
Virtues are that which we do in order to see that our values are realized. We do Virtues in order to maintain our Values. This begs the question: What is a Virtuous Person? A Virtuous Person is a person who tends to think and behave in ways that help maintain his or her personal Value System.
What are Virtues?
Virtue can also be defined as:
- “The quality or practice of moral excellence or righteousness.
- A particular moral excellence: the virtue of tolerance” (Dictionary.com)
Virtues tend to come in sets. For example: Some "Christian" Virtues include: Prudence (or wisdom), Justice (or fairness), Temperance (meaning restriction or restraint of self), Courage (or fortitude), Faith, Hope, Charity (or Love). Other virtues might include: Patience, Honor, Accountability, Humility, Curiosity, Cooperation, Respect & Honesty.
Other sets of Virtues might be found in various other Religions, as well as in certain cultures, and certain professions, as well as in other grouping categories.
A Deeper Look at Virtues:
"Virtue (Latin: virtus) is moral excellence. A virtue is a trait or quality that is deemed to be morally good and thus is valued as a foundation of principle and good moral being. Personal virtues are characteristics valued as promoting collective and individual greatness. In other words, it is a behavior that shows high moral standards. Doing what is right and avoiding what is wrong. The opposite of virtue is vice, another example of this notion is merit.
The four classic cardinal virtues in Christianity are temperance, prudence, courage (or fortitude), and justice. Christianity derives the three theological virtues of faith, hope and love (charity) from 1 Corinthians 13. Together these make up the seven virtues" (Source).
Hence, the seven Christian Virtues are Temperance, Prudence, Courage, Justice/Fairness, Faith, Hope, and Love (Charity). Any given set of beliefs quite possibly has its own values and virtues.
"The development of virtue has a historical association as an alchemical process, wherein the internal virtues that we associate with the mind are integratively understood as the minerals that give us also the healthy biological structure of our bodies and externally the planet as a whole" (Source).
In other words, if we have Values that believe in Good things; and if we hold true to our Values and we exercise our Values through our Virtues, then our physical beings and even our World might theoretically benefit. Look at it this way: If I act in a Virtuous way, then it is likely, that I will have less negative stress. Hence, I might be healthier. And furthermore, it is possible that a healthier me could somehow encourage or facilitate a healthier Planet.
Virtues and Values
Keep In Mind: Our Virtues are the Attitudes, Ways of Thinking and our Behaviors that help keep our Values in tact. In other words, "Values are the guiding principles of our lives. They are essential for positive human behavior and actions in our daily lives. They are formed on the basis of interests, choices, needs, desires and preferences. They have played an important role not only in sociology, but also in psychology, anthropology and other related disciplines." (Source.)
Our Values are also possibly influenced by our Religious Beliefs and Experiences, our Education, our Career Paths, and our Social Groups, our Socio-Economic Status, our Teachers, our Mentors, our Cultures, our Subcultures, our Peers, our Friends, our Neighbors, our Minds, and our Families. (And possibly even influenced by our Enemies, as well).
Also, it is worth noting for example, how these concepts meet the road. One example can be found on this "Families of Character" website, which states that instilling certain Virtues into ourselves and into our children helps enable families to thrive. You can view their list at this link (Families of Character.com).
We are only discussing a few of the many virtues here and/or the numerous groupings of virtues -- as they apply to Domestic Violence; and more so, how they apply to prevention of Domestic Violence. In other words: Which Virtues could best help prevent Domestic Violence?
Virtues and Domestic Violence Theory:
It is widely believed and practiced in Domestic Violence Offender Intervention that the object of Treatment is to help a person learn how to live a lifestyle that is more in-line with the properties on the Equality Wheel; rather than in-line with the properties on the Power and Control Wheel.
The Properties on the Equality Wheel -- In Contrast with the Properties of the Power and Control Wheel -- include the following as contrasted with, or followed by its Power and Control Wheel Counterpart:
- Non-Threatening Behavior; rather than using Intimidation
- Respect; rather than using Emotional Abuse
- Trust & Support; rather than using Isolation, Insecurity and Jealousy
- Honesty & Accountability; rather than using Minimization, Denial and Blame
- Responsible Parenting; rather than Using Children (as weapons against the other)
- Shared Responsibility; rather than using Male (or Female) Privilege
- Economic Partnership; rather than using Economic Abuse
- Negotiation & Fairness; rather than using Coercion and Threats
Think about It: What does each Virtue look like in the Practice of Preventing DV?
What's say we look at a list of hand-picked Virtues that are perhaps more reflective of Prevention of Domestic Violence Feeling, Thinking and Behavior and try to Imagine ways that each Virtue could help us prevent Domestic Violence - Type Thinking, Feeling or Behavior:
- Prudence (or wisdom)
- Justice (or fairness)
- Temperance (Ability to Stop one's self)
- Courage (or fortitude)
- Faith
- Hope
- Charity / Altruism
- Love of Humanity / Realizing Nobody's Perfect; and Everybody's Perfect
- Patience
- Honor
- Accountability
- Humility
- Curiosity / Being willing to Learn and to Change for the Better.
- Cooperation / Teamwork / One for all and all for one.
- Forgiveness / Letting go of resentment / Moving forward.
- Respect (Respect of Other and of Self).
- Creativity / Flexibility / Spontaneity
- Honesty / Truthfulness
- Resilience
- Compassion
- Industriousness / Hard Work
- Stick-to-it-iveness
- Clear-Mindedness / Clear Thinking / Critical Thinking (Ability to think and recognize my own biases at the same time. And to make decisions in an objective manner)
- Sobriety
complete your Virtues Worksheet. ***
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(Originally Posted, 12/14/2020).
Sources:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Virtue
https://www.gktoday.in/gk/human-values-in-ethics/
https://www.familiesofcharacter.com/devblog10809/2018/3/21/what-are-the-40-virtues-full-list
Charatacter Strengths are also important.
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