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What is Domestic Violence Made Of?
DV Happens for lots of reasons...
In many cases tehre was prenty of chaos; but no intention.
Plenty of damage of different types; not necessarily any intent to damage.
Plenty of Pain to go around -- but not necessarily inflicted intentionally.
The poitn here is to try and understand better -- some of the roots of DV. And we've already talked about SA, jealousy, alcohol, Wanting something and not getting it, incompattibility and on and on and on. Denied comforts -- such as denying sex. Or Denying my responsibility to get out and make a living. No trust... loss of respect.
So when those things are there; there is often some sort of a Chaos of sorts that starts to manifest in teh relationship, in the home.
For example, people start playing tit for tat... it just gets worse.
The chaos deepens... Like a song from the early 80's....
THere was a quote int eh song.... something like "Got in the house like a pigeon from Hell...."
WHen you think of Evil, do you think of something you CAN explain? Can be very difficult.
Questions: "What Gives?" --
What Goes On In Those Dark Places Where ACTUAL Domestic Violence Lives?
What is at the Core of Violence?
What is at the Core of Domestic Violence?
What is it that makes DV happen?
How is it born?
How does it grow?
Why does it exist?
In order to stop DV -- or at least control it to some extent, we should probably understand it better.
"Kind of a Ridley Scott Quote" (Enhanced Double Exposure) combining a shot of the Wolf Moon from early this morning in Walsenburg with a photo of a Hawk (I think) that I got at Lathrop State Park last weekend. Enjoy.
It's kind of unreal...
Where does it live?
How does it live?
How is it born?
How does it survive?
"If you'd told me 7 months ago I was going to get a charge for this nonsense.... I'd been....
"Mine came out of not wanting to be abusive."
But it eventually culminated into me snapping.
Had a lot of chances for me to let her go.
She grew up in the system too. I had a lot of chances to let her go. And I should have known better than to stay that night. (I did not leave, so I am here. Did not listen to my better instincts.)
So where does all that evil come from:
An uncle who is always attacking this person has Evil. Nephew says, "I think it's because I have never had to kiss his ass and I'm always doing good for myself.'
Alcohol plays a role in the thinking and behavior.
Jealousy and Envy also play a role.
If they always get away with it.
No moral compass. No morals.
No self-respect.
Abuse as a child.
The Hating Habit. "Haters gonna Hate."
Maby I lack confidence.
Trying to bring someone else down to my level.
Like Lawyers knowingly defending other Evildoers.
Addiction is also at the root of Evil.
Paranoia
Interpersonal Evil.
Chemically-Induced Psychotic Sx; Paranoia, Delusions.
Childhood Exposure.
Being a target of abuse or molestation.
Possible Environmental Factors.
Evil is when you cannot remember it;, but you also cannot forget it.
Antisocial Pre-meditation (What can I get away with?)
Hate, Jealousy, Envy. Wanting to drag you down to their level.
Fight or Flight which is caused by Trauma (Theoretically).
Pre-meditate Evil versus Randomn Evil.
Sleep Deprivation.
Coercion (hard or soft coersion) by an Evil Ideology or an entity.
How does a normal person, psychologically healthy, end up doing DV or Evil.
Getting pushed to the breaking point. Can't take it any more.
A loss of trust or respect for the other person.
You can prevent Evil.
Shawshank Redemption
You got it and I want it.
Don't take that away.
The fear of loss makes Evil.
Evil systems such as Foster Care. Or the schools.
A lack of early childhood Human comfort -- Effects Social Dev.
Accidental Evil / or Random Evil -- "Is there such a thing?"
One accident might be another person's evil force that tore through their life.
Different perspectives.
Real external perspectives
Evil in the System -- Corrupt staff.
Evil in the Law
Fundamental bias -- favoring white folks or women or any other minority.
Foster care system
****** How do you Overcome Evil??? *******
Moral Compass, Need some experience of receiving compassion and Moral Fortitude, Will Willfulness.... Can I will myself to do better?
Mindful about what you are thinking -- don't let it turn negative.
Don't take it out on the wrong person.
Over-control. Try serenity instead.
Live and let live.
Be very careful around Power -- What are you doing regarding the Power.
Power-Hungry.
Money is the root of all Evil.
What do couples fight about -- Largely money and Jealousy, sex,
If they got away with it once; they could get away with it again.
Could become Habitually evil.
Whether victim or offender (past or future or both); the confusion can also be a manifestation of evil... And one has to get out while one can -- hopefully intact...
Somehow, I need to make sure that Evil cannot again happen in my life?
The main reason I am sharing this with you is to -- like a snake or a loaded weapon -- they Respect that snake or Respect that weapon... like don't point it at anyone else.
We have respect the Evil so as not to use it on anyone else or on myself.
Evil masquirades as power -- sometimes... but eh problem with that in relationsihps... is big trobule...
The whole Idea of power and control.
Evil might also be called negative energy, or it could be revenge, or greed, or insecurity... and Jealousy.
Once that stuff shows in the relationship, thenn it is hard to get the realtionship back on track... But it can be done.
We must get ourselves back on track and begin to walk a more positive or more constructive path.
Fixing evil also requires a sense of Humility.
"The word "evil" appears hundreds of times in the Bible, with counts varying by translation and search method, but generally around 600+ times in total (KJV uses it ~613 times), appearing in both the Old Testament (Hebrew ra') and New Testament (Greek ponaros) to describe things contrary to God's will, from moral wickedness to simple deficiency. For instance, the King James Version (KJV) uses "evil" over 600 times, while the Hebrew root ra' appears around 664 times in the Old Testament, and the Greek ponaros appears about 77 times in the New Testament. "
If I have evil, I've got to my evil, thoughts, feelings, actions, desires, plans...
Another topic that this might lead to is called Humility.
Fixing evil. 10 commandments... and others as well as many other traditions and ideas and wisdoms that might help one re-right their boat.
PLEASE NOTE: This Post is not intended to discount or promote any particular set or religious beliefs or traditions.
