Taking Time Outs: A Great Tool for Helping Keep Potential Domestic Violence Victims from Being Harmed; And an Effective Tool for Helping Keep A Potential Domestic Violence Offender from Becoming A Person with a Domestic Violence Offense

  Did you ever wonder what is basically going to happen when a Police Person intervenes in a Domestic Violence Dispute and finds that either; a Domestic Violence crime has happened; or that a Domestic Violence crime is about to happen?  
  In such cases, perhaps a Time Out is about to happen.  Either that Police Person is going to recommend that one or both parties involved in the dispute take a Time Out.  Or that Police Person is going to require that one or the other of the parties involved has to take a time out.  
  If the Police requires a Time Out, then someone is probably going to get arrested and charged with a DV-Related Crime.
  Question: Do you need for a Police Person to come along and give you a Time Out when one is needed?  Or can you take a Time Out on your own when one is needed?

Why Time Outs?
  Time Outs are probably the most effective way to stop potentially-abusive behavior before it becomes abusive behavior.  
  Time Outs are probably the most effective way to stop a potential DV - Type of Incident before it becomes a DV Offense.
   Time Outs are probably the most effective way to stop a potential DV victim from getting attacked before she or he gets hurt.  



***  And Time Outs are probably the most effective way to stop a potential DV Offender from becoming a DV Offender. ***

  In Short: Time Outs are a VERY GOOD THING!!!
  And it is most important to remember that a Time Out does not happen until one actually takes a Time Out.  In order to benefit from Time Outs, one needs to take a Time Out.
  A Time Out should be taken at any time that a person feels that they are about to become Violent, whether it is going to be Physical Violence, Verbal Violence, Sexual Violence, Emotional Violence Psychological Violence, Social Violence, Electronic or Cyber Violence, Financial Violence, Parental Alienation, Ostracizing, Intimidation, Coercion, Threats, or even Passive-Aggressive Violence. 
  Time Outs can be a great tool that one can use to avoid any kind of Violence.  
  A Time Out is when one immediately takes himself or herself out of the situation (or is taken out of the situation immediately in order to avoid committing or continuing violence toward others or even towards one's self).
  Violence is a horribly negative energy that people (and animals) sometimes put out into the World either directly or indirectly.  Violence tends to hurt or even kill people or animals or destroy things and it is generally destructive.  It is just that simple.  
  Over the past 30 years, the U.S. Government (and other Governments) have begun to address Domestic Violence with legal sanctions such as Jail Time, Prison, Probation, Treatment Aimed At Prevention, as well as making it easier for couples to immediately separate and divorce in order to to be safe.

  When Should One Take A Time Out?
  If one begins to think about committing violence, is thinking thoughts or feeling feelings that could lead to violence of any kind.  Or if one has a history of losing their temper and one is about to lose their temper; it is time to take a Time Out instead.  
  One should be aware of his or her Red Flags that might indicate that one could be at risk of becoming violent. 
  When one feels Cues telling him or her that they are truly starting to feel like doing violence or feeling that one may soon be unable to control one's self, then it is definitely time to act.  It is time for a Time Out.  

  How does One Take a Time Out?  
  Ideas on How to Take a Time Out in order to Prevent DV are readily available.  For Example, Author and Family Therapist, Dr. Richie Cole (1993) suggested that things one should do include (These lists below are Paraphrased and Edited for inclusion): 

Things to do when Taking a Time Out:

• 'Say you're taking a Time-Out and/or give the Time-Out hand signal
• Immediately leave the place you're at without getting caught up in an argument or explanation.
• Try to make sure you're positioned near an exit so your partner won't be in your pathway. If you push her on the way out, you've been physically abusive and re-violated.
• Go away from the place you are and do a relaxation exercise or some physical activity that will not reinforce abusive actions in order to initially deal with your adrenaline rush.
• Make a buddy contact with a group member (or a close friend) who's working the program. (This means you should have phone numbers in a few different places and always in your wallet.)
• Call or Text your female or male partner after about 30 minutes to let them know you're taking your Time-Out and that you're not doing something destructive to yourself, to them or to the relationship. Don't get caught up in a conversation and don't talk about the matter at hand.
• Tell her or him that you’re on your Time-Out and that you'll call them in a few hours.
• Notice if you need to do another relaxation exercise or some activity to deal with your physiological state.
• Do a control log analyzing your behavior. Don't examine her or his behavior.
• Think about how you want to non-abusively deal with the situation. You may need to road-map the situation.
• Make sure you stay away for at least four (4) hours since the adrenaline pump won't fully abate for at least that amount of time.
• When the time is appropriate call your partner and see if she or he is open to having you return and to deal with the matter at hand. If they are, return and deal with them in a non-abusive, assertive and empathic manner. Only return or talk about the issue at hand if your partner wants to do so.
• If the red flags reappear take another Time-Out.'

Things to NOT do when Taking a Time Out: 

• 'Never try to give your partner a Time Out.  She or he needs to make that decision for themselves.
• Don't give any parting shots, insults, threats or poor me-type signals.  Just leave.
• Don't act abusively toward anyone.
• Try not to make this into a moral situation where you determine that she or he is wrong and you are right.  Instead, I need to figure out what I am doing wrong or what I am doing that is not working for me.
• If there is a small child around, DO NOT Bring Them into the argument.
• Don't drink alcohol or use drugs or engage in other addictive behaviors.
• Don't stay with, or see another person who could be thought of as a potential partner; or even a friend or family member who is the same sex/gender as your partner.
• Don't do any behavior that will reinforce violent actions, Such as, martial arts, boxing, batting practice, shooting weapons, etc.
• Don't return home too early.
• Don't get caught up in an argument on the phone.
• Don't interact with people who will reinforce violent and controlling thoughts, behaviors, or beliefs.
• Don't think you're above and beyond a Time-Out.
• Don't forget or fail to clearly announce your Time-Out.'

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Discussion Questions:  
  How do I identifying my Red Flags?
  How to do Road-mapping a situation?
  How to do a Control Log?
  How will my Partner know if I am taking a Time Out or what it is?

Souces Include:
Richie Cole, Ph.D., LMFT, of Radical Counseling & Consultation  (Possibly formerly of the Domestic Abuse Center).
Rules for Taking Time Outs According to Dr. Daniel Sonkin.
Info about Control Logs may be found in "Education Groups For Men Who Batter, The Duluth Model"; Pence & Paymar, 1993, Springer Publishing Company, Inc.

Control Log: http://nomsintranet.org.uk/roh/official-documents/Domestic%20Abuse%20Workbook%20final.pdf

Morran, D. and Wilson, M. (1997). Men who are Violent to Women; A Groupwork Practice Manual. Russell House, Dorset.
Road-Mapping Situations.
For Info Regarding Parental Alienation, Click Here.

(Originally Posted 2020)

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  First Published 5/18/2020, Dr. Beverly.  

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STOP, BREATHE, FOCUS, RELAX, REFLECT and CHOOSE WISELY

  Sometimes, our differences or arguments get to where someone might feel like she or he cannot think straight.  And one might even start feeling cues telling one that they are angry and might just act out.  When angry, it is a great time to take a break. When I feel my Anger Cues it is time. (Question: What are your cues?  How do you know if you are angry?)

  When I'm not sure if I need a time out; then this technique helps me clear my mind enough to where I can decide wisely whether to take a Time Out; or whether to simply do this Stop, Breathe and Focus exercise and just move forward.  
  If violence is already happening.  Or if I am really thinking about doing violence, then it is time to take a Time Out.  
  Otherwise, Stop, Breathe, Focus, Relax, Reflect and Choose Wisely can help me handle the situation in a constructive way.  I can do this in the same room or in a different room.
  In many cases, such a break could be a Time Out.  However, if it is not that bad; then one can do a pretty simple, easy-to-do exercise that helps them relax and adjust their thinking such that they feel a whole lot more in control of their self; while feeling a whole lot less of a need to continue to try and control their partner.
Stop, Breathe, Focus, Relax, Reflect and Choose Wisely is just that.  
  First, I need to decide whether or not I can stay in this same room or situation for the time being and start to focus without going to the other room.  Or if I can go into the other room without any problems anyway.  The bottom line is whether or not I can stay in this room without doing or saying something that I might regret later.
  When the tension has built up to a level where one might lose one's temper and say or do something that they will later regret, it is time to do this.  If/When I get to a point where I might do something destructive I can do the following exercise instead.
  I can quietly and respectfully withdraw from the conversation or the interaction -- while still in the room or while not in the room.  But if I stay in that room, I need to be careful that I don't irritate the other person by occupying myself with a cell phone or something, or just being disrespectful/
  The best thing -- if possible -- Is probably just to listen really good.  If this doesn't work or if the tension doesn't de-escalate, then I can walk calmly to a place where I can sit down and relax quietly and away from all the noise and other people.  And I can begin to do this exercise that will help me feel much more in control of myself; while also feeling less anxious, less angry, and feeling less of a need to act out or to say something that could cause more problems.
  Whereas a Time Out is a very effective way to prevent DV Behaviors, it takes 4 hours to do; whereas this technique (Stop, Breathe, Focus, Relax, Reflect and Choose Wisely) can be done in as little as 15 minutes.  
  Here is how you do it:

• Stop --  Stop Talking -- Stop Arguing -- Stop trying to Prove Something.  Stop doing what ever I am doing, get alone for a moment -- if needed.  Or just sit down if possible in the same room and  (Stop, Shut yourself up, Sit Down, and Start Breathing -- slow, deliberate deep breaths).  Either stay in that room where the argument was taking place -- and listen to the other person (only if it's safe to do that).  
• Or if needed, go into another room where you can feel peaceful.  Be by yourself for a few moments..  Listen to yourself.  It's kind of like meditating.  If you cannot leave the room where the problem is taking place, then at least sit down and shut yourself up.  Stop talking.  Stop reacting.  Focus on you.  What are you thinking?  And listen to your partner.

• Breathe --  Breathe deeply (close my eyes if I need to), get into a nice comfortable posture, feeling your body, feeling your senses, body relaxed.  All my weight on my but.  Breathe deeply – in slowly and out slowly (feel my blood cells in my lungs becoming more oxygenated, and let that flow up to my brain and it makes me think more clearly at that moment).  This can help me make better decisions..  

• Focus --   Focus on your breathing.  Focus on relaxing your body.  Focus away from what ever has been happening that has you so frustrated.  Focus on what I am facing.  The reality.  The pain.  The Anger.  The Fear.  What am I afraid of?  And what are the Possibilities (bad or good)?

• Relax --   Relax some more. Focus on breathing some more.  Relax for a few more moments…….  Take it easy….  Take some more deep breaths.  SLOWLY.  Get out of a hurry of the stress in that was in that other space.  No hurry.  Take your time.

• Reflect -- Reflect on what I would like to have happen for me right now or in the near future.  How would I like for this situation to resolve?  Continue to Relax and Breathe as you do this -------   
• And Reflect on what I would like for this moment or for my life to be remembered for as I get older.  Do I want to be remembered as someone with DV-type problems, DV convictions etc...?  Or do I want to be remembered as someone who really cared for people and cared for myself, and showed it by doing the right thing(s) such as Stop, Breathe and Focus; rather than fighting?  
• Disengage from the Craziness in that other space.... (Stop chasing the solution with that other person for right now.)

• Re-Focus --  Now, Re-Focus on what I need to do right now to feel better.  Do I need to take a Time Out?  (Remember... Sobriety is a must in these situations.).  
• Think: "What -- if anything -- has to happen right now?"  
• Does anything really need to be done right this minute?  
• Is this an emergency?  Probably not.  
• Or can it wait for just a little while, or few days or weeks?  
• Keep breathing deeply, Relaxing, Focusing...  
• What can I do to turn this into a situation that works for me?  
• And how does patience help me right now?  
• Keep doing the deep breathing.  Keep doing the right thing.

• Choose Wisely --  Choose what you need to do right now (if anything).  Choose something that will BOTH prevent any more bad feelings regarding this situation right now; and/or something that will help you address the situation in a way that is non-threatening, peaceful, respectful, helpful, and a win-win solution for everyone.  
• Or be patient until you have such a solution.  
• (Then when you present a solution to the other person -- be sure to first: Listen to what your partner is saying; and also remember that as you speak about your ideas, you must be flexible).  
• And always continue with patience.

  Remember, the smartest thing one can do in many of these types of situations is to listen.
  Just sit down, shut up (unless asked a question), and listen carefully at what is being said.    This is not about giving your partner the silent treatment.  Basically, this is about stopping the competition between you.

Try to Remember the words of President John F. Kennedy: 

“Our most basic common link is that we all inhabit this planet. We all breathe the same air. We all cherish our children's future. And we are all mortal.”

  Pay attention to your partner.  How is your partner feeling right now?

When talk about your feelings and thoughts, use "I" statements.

  How is she or he feeling about this?   
  Accept how they are feeling.  Be compassionate.
  Listen.  There is no requirement to win something against your partner in such a situation.
  After all, this is a partnership right?  
  In partnerships, BOTH people should win at the same time.

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(Originally published 6/3/2020)

 

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In Order For Me To Successfully Complete DV Treatment and Fly On Out Of Here, I MUST be able to Check Off Every One of the Following Items:

>>> I Must have made sufficient progress such that I am not at all likely to have more DV my life -- The MTT must approve this.

>>> I Must have mastered skills that will help me have healthier relationships  -- The MTT must approve this.

>>> I Must have completed the assigned Worksheets for EVERY WEEK that I was in Treatment.

>>> I Must have Paid Off My Balance in Full.

>>> I Must have Completed an Absence Attestation for Every Absence that I have had since my Intake.

>>> If I have missed more than 3 Sessions during my tenure in DV Offender Treatment, I will have to have special permission from Dr. B. in order to continue with my DV Treatment.

>>> I Must have Completed My Session Feedback Form For Every Session that I have Attended.

>>> I Must have Completed My Treatment Plans for every 3 Months in Treatment.

(First Posted 1/10/2022).

REMINDER: Changes Beginning September 1st, 2022

 Please note the Soon-To-Come Changes as announced below:

Beginning September 1st, 2022:

1. All DV - Related Services will be delivered in-person.  All clients will be expected to attend all Sessions in-person except under very special pre-arranged circumstances.

2. There WILL BE SOME GROUP SCHEDULE CHANGES.  Keep you eyes out for those changes by going to the following Link and looking for Group Sessions that are marked as "In-Person".  After September 1st, 2022, pretty much all GROUP Sessions WILL BE HELD IN-PERSON.   

3. All DV - Related Services will be paid for either prior to, or at the time of Service -- either using cash, card or voucher.

4. All DV Treatment Consumers will be expected to have completed all related Worksheets and other Paperwork -- either online or on paper every week and prior to completion of Treatment.

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(Notice First Posted August 2, 2022).

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VERY IMPORTANT NOTICE ABOUT PAYING FOR DV TREATMENT -- GOING BACK to Pre-COVID Pay-As-You-Go Rules

Starting Immediately with Full Effect as of Feb. 21st, 2022:

  Throughout COVID-19, Dr. B has made many generous exceptions to previous rules in order to help Clients get through this period and their DV Treatment as smoothly as possible.  Some of these exceptions are changing as of February 21, 2022.

  Starting February 21st, 2022, Anyone who has not made a payment on their balance within the previous 2 weeks will be at risk of Suspension or Discharge.  

  Everyone who has a Balance should start as soon as possible to pay on their Balance and to pay on their Balance every week, or at least every two weeks until the balance is less than $71 by February 21st.  

  If anyone has been attending sessions and does not have a voucher to cover their session; they should be making payments via the Paypal / Debit / Credit buttons on this Blog every week or at the very least, every other week.  Or with Cash (in person only).  Or mailing Money Orders or Checks in advance of sessions. 

  Beginning Feb. 21, 2022, if someone has a Balance of $71 or higher, they will be suspended from attending any more treatment sessions until they bring their Balance down to below $71. 

  If anyone misses a DV Session of any kind due to inability to pay, they should note that these missed sessions will count as absences and once anyone reaches the point of 3 absences (for any reason), they are subject to Unsuccessful Discharge from DV Treatment.

  From Feb. 21, 2022 forward, if anyone fails to make at least one payment every two weeks, they will be either Suspended or Unsuccessfully discharged from Treatment.

  Anyone who does not currently know their Balance Due; yet has been attending Sessions and has not been paying for them or receiving Vouchers from their Probation Officer should be making payments already.  DO NOT WAIT for a total balance due before starting to make Payments of $35 per Session.  Starting Feb. 21, 2022, if anyone is more than 2 sessions behind in balance, they will be either Suspended or Discharged from Treatment.

Everyone Must Learn how to Calculate Their Estimated Balance Due.  Estimating a Balance Due for DV Treatment is Really Easy:

  Everyone can easily calculate an estimate of their balance by doing the following: 

• Add in the $100 Intake / Evaluation fee;
• Add up the number of attended Group sessions; 
• Multiply the number of attended Group sessions by $35 each;  
• Add together all of the Intake / Evaluation and Group Fees;
• >>>
• Separately add up the value of their Used Vouchers;
• Add up the value of the verified Cash / Check / Money Order or Card Payments.  
• >>>
• Then Subtract the Intake / Evaluation and Group Fees Total from the Used Vouchers.  This will give you your Balance Due. 

Everyone Must Learn How To Make Their Own Payments:

All Clients who are capable of doing so will be required to learn how to make their own payments using the Paypal / Debit / Credit button on the Blog.  

   Here is How To MAKE CARD PAYMENTS!

If you are looking at the Blog from your cell phone: 

   A. Scroll to the bottom of your cell phone screen.

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   D. Use your fingers to navigate and make the screen bigger.  Press you Payment Method, Put in Your Name and the Amount, and make your payments with your Card.  

  If paying cash, it must be delivered directly to Dr. B. at the time of service.

  If paying by check or money order, it must be received by Dr. B no later than the date of Service.  Payments are not counted until they are received.  You may hand deliver Money Orders and Checks.  Or you may mail them.  But remember, they must be received by Dr. B. prior to the Service Date.  (There is an extra $35 fee if a Check Bounces). 

   * Mail your Check or Money Order to Dr. Beverly at P.O. box 871, Walsenburg, CO 81089. 

   ** Payments are not counted unless they are received).

   *** Bounced Checks and/or Insufficient Fund Card Payments will will incur a fee ($35 each).

 Questions: Text Dr. B. at 719-671-7793 or email him at nepeht@gmail.com.  Thank you.

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>>> Always Keep In Mind: It's a whole lot easier on everyone if you just pay as you go.

(Originally Posted 1/31/2022)

Absence Attestation: If You Have Missed Any Weeks, Please Complete Your Absence Attestation Form Here

RULE 1: Every Week of Participation in this DV Program must be accounted for. 
RULE 2: No DV Client should miss more than one DV Session for any given 10 weeks in DV Treatment.  Once a DV Client misses 3 DV Treatment Sessions (including Intake, Evaluation, Groups, Individual, Treatment Planning, Denial, or Reinstatement Sessions).
  If a DV Client fails to honor either Rule 1 or Rule 2 (above), the Multidisciplinary Treatment Team (MTT) must meet to discuss this matter; then the Client can be discharged from Treatment as "Unsuccessful", required to do additional Treatment(s), and/or Temporarily Suspended from DV Treatment until the issues causing absences are resolved.  
  This means that every time you miss attending your DV Session (Group or Individual) for one week, you must complete one of these Absence Attestation forms and submit it to Dr. Beverly.  All absences from any type of DV Appointment require that you complete an Absence Attestation form.  Please see the Link to the Absence Attestation Form, below.
  Naturally, a Communicated Absence -- where Dr. Beverly is notified at least 24 hours in advance, is looked upon much more favorably than a No Call / No Show or an AWOL Absence.  
  In order to be considered for a Communicated Absence, you must do this within 48 hours of your absence. Technically, almost all absences should be communicated to Dr. Beverly at least 24 hours prior to your scheduled Session.  If you do not Communicate about your Absence with Dr. B within 48 hours of your Absence, it will be considered a Non-Communicated Absence. 
  If you have documentation of any kind to send to Dr. B., please do so by photographing or scanning the documentation and emailing it to him.  If you are sending in Documentation, you must still complete this Form and Submit it in order for this to be a Communicated Absence.
  Also, please be sure to check out the "Absence Make-Up Assignments" on this Blog, so that when you complete this Form and are asked to state which Make-Up Assignment you plan to complete, you will know what you are committing to.
  It is important to note that Make-Up Assignments do not Make-Up for your missing any DV Sessions.  However, if you complete Make-Up Assignments when ever you miss a session, the MTT is more likely to be more lenient on you for missing the sessions that you had to miss.
  Although there are no "Excused Absences", Communicated Absences and Absences for which one completes a Make-Up Assignment, are looked upon much more favorably by the MTT than Non-Communicated Absences.  Furthermore, if Absences are Communicated in advance, this is even better. 
  It is important to note that once a person reaches three (3) Absences of any kind, he or she may be dropped from the Program. 

  *** Please Click Here to Complete your Absence Attestation Form. *** 

(You must complete one of these for each week that you were absent, from the beginning of your treatment).

And PLEASE see the potential Make-Up Assignment Worksheets Below.

Please Click on one of the items Below to Complete one of these Absence Make-Up Assignments: 

  *** Please Click Here to Complete an Extra DV Treatment Planning Worksheet. *** (You should have one of these completed for every 3 months that you have been in Treatment.  Therefore you should do one of these, unless you believe you have completed one every 3 months.)  

  *** Please Click Here to Complete a Personal Change Plan Worksheet *** (You should have one of these completed for every 4 months you have been in Treatment.  Therefore, you should do one of these, unless you believe you have already completed one for every 4 months.)

  *** Please Click Here to Complete a Short Version of the Aftercare Plan Worksheet *** (You should have completed at least two of these during your Treatment.  Therefore, you should do one of these, unless you believe you have already completed 2 of these.)

*** Please CLICK Here to Complete an another TAKING TIME OUTs Worksheet ***
  (You should have completed at least one of these during your Treatment.  So do one now in order to be sure.)

 *** Please Click Here to Complete an Extra Recognizing Empathy Worksheet. ***

  (You should have completed at least one of these during your Treatment.  So do one now in order to be sure.)

*** Please CLICK HERE to Complete a DV and Anger Management Worksheet ***

  (You should have completed at least one or two of these during your treatment.  It's always good to do another one of these.)

*** Please CLICK HERE to Complete a New Personal Values & Mission Statement to End DV ***
  (You should have completed at least one of these during your Treatment.  So do one now in order to be sure.)

  *** Please Click Here to Complete an Extra Stop, Breathe, Focus, Relax, Reflect and Choose Wisely Worksheet. ***  (You should have completed at least two of these during your Treatment.  Therefore, you should do one of these, unless you believe you have already completed 2 of these.)

 *** Please Click Here to Complete an Extra My Red Flags Worksheet.*** (You should have completed at least two of these during your Treatment.  Therefore, you should do one of these, unless you believe you have already completed 2 of these.)

 *** Please Click Here to Complete an Extra Respect Letter Worksheet.*** (You should have completed at least two of these during your Treatment.  Therefore, you should do one of these, unless you believe you have already completed 2 of these.)

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