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When does DV Happen???
"Many therapists urge battered women to leave those abusive relationships. Statistics warn, however, that the greatest violence often follows their departure.
In fact, the Justice Department says the majority of domestic assaults reported to law enforcement take place after the couple separates.
“The statistics are that women in abusive relationships are about 500 many times more at risk when they leave,” said Wendy Mahoney, executive director for the Mississippi Coalition Against Domestic Violence. “Domestic violence is all about power and control, and when a woman leaves, a man has lost his power and control.”"
Why do Couples Break Up?
According to AI, "Couples break up due to a multitude of factors, but some common reasons include communication breakdowns, lack of trust, lost intimacy, financial problems, and incompatibility. Other contributing factors include disrespect, different values or goals, and abuse."
"Common causes for breakups include personality differences, lack of time spent together, infidelity, lack of positive interactions between the couple, low sexual satisfaction, and low overall relationship satisfaction. Ending a relationship is one of the most difficult things we have to do." (Source.)
Domestic Abuse Vs Normal Breakup: Understanding the key differences.
Primary Reasons Why Couples Break Up?
"The most common reasons couples break up include lack of commitment, infidelity, excessive conflict, financial disagreements, and substance abuse. Additionally, issues like lack of intimacy, communication problems, and growing apart can also contribute to relationship breakdown." (Source.)
Why is Breaking Up So Difficult?
"Breakups are difficult due to a combination of factors, including the loss of a significant relationship, the emotional toll of the end, and the potential for long-term psychological impact. Factors like the length of the relationship, the depth of the emotional connection, and the specific circumstances surrounding the separation also contribute to the emotional intensity.
Why do Humans have such a hard time being alone?
Here's a more detailed look at why breakups are so challenging:
1. Loss and Grief:
Losing a relationship: Breakups involve the loss of a significant other, a shared future, and the routines and habits that have become part of daily life.
Shared plans and dreams: Breakups can involve the loss of shared plans, dreams, and hopes for the future, adding to the sense of disappointment and grief.
Emotional rollercoaster: Breakups can trigger a wide range of emotions, including sadness, anger, loneliness, and even relief, making the process feel chaotic and overwhelming.
2. Psychological Impact:
Attachment style: Individuals with certain attachment styles (e.g., anxious or avoidant attachment) may struggle more with the transition and the uncertainty of a breakup.
Low self-esteem: People with low self-esteem may struggle with the thought of being alone or believe they won't find another partner, making the prospect of a breakup more daunting.
Fear of the unknown: Breakups can create a sense of uncertainty about the future, leading to anxiety and fear of the unknown.
Dependency: Financial or emotional dependency on a partner can make breaking up feel like a loss of stability and support.
Social pressure: Social pressures from friends and family to stay together or maintain a certain image can make it difficult to end a relationship.
3. The Nature of Relationships:
Comfort and familiarity: Long-term relationships often provide a sense of comfort and familiarity, which can be difficult to let go of when ending the relationship.
The "good" memories: It can be hard to let go of the positive memories and experiences shared during the relationship, even when it's not working.
Hope for the future: Some people may hold onto hope that things will improve, making it difficult to accept the need to end the relationship.
4. Specific Circumstances:
Nature of the breakup: A break-up initiated by one partner versus one initiated by the other can impact the emotional experience, with some finding it easier to move on when the decision was made by their partner.
Reasons for the breakup: The reasons behind the breakup can also influence the pain. If the relationship ended due to betrayal or abuse, the healing process may be more challenging.
In conclusion, breakups are a complex and multifaceted process that involves a combination of emotional, psychological, and practical challenges. Understanding these factors can help individuals navigate the breakup process and support them in moving forward. " (Source).
"For No One" No Longer Needs You
The Pain of a Break-Up:
What do we do in order to avoide the pain???
Rationalization
Obliviation (Dranking and Drugging)
La Oltra / El Otro (find a substitute) -- Temporary Fix
Go Crazy / Psycho
Try to keep busy / Workaholism
Find Another Love
Become an Envious Hater
BE Jealous... Do Bad Things or Settle for Bad Thoughts
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