“Our love moves from
the higher arousal emotions of interest, amusement, and joy into the calmer
positive emotions of serenity, gratitude, inspiration, and awe.”
As we move from
passionate to companionate love, “our levels of adrenaline, dopamine, and
serotonin get back to their normal state,” Rowbotham says.
“They’re replaced by
oxytocin, a hormone that’s released as a result of the physical closeness we
experience with our partners.”
Oxytocin, the “hug
hormone”, calms you down and makes you feel more connected to your partner.
According to one
study, oxytocin can also make a person consider their relationship in a more
positive light.” (Source).
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." (Ephesians 4:2).
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." (1 Peter 4:8).
“My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you." (John 15:12).
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." (Corinthians 13:13).
According to the Teachings of The Buddha:
“Teach this triple truth to all: A generous heart, kind speech, and a life of service and compassion are the things which renew humanity.”
“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
And According to Islam:
"The laughter of our spouse is one of the best sounds in life. Always try to make them smile and keep them happy In ’Sha’Allah"
"Love is shown in your deeds not in your words"
"A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other."
Per Hinduism:
In Hinduism, kāma is pleasurable, personified by the god Kama. For many Hindus schools it is the third end in life.
In contrast to kāma, prema or prem refers to elevated love. Love in Hinduism is sacrament. It preaches that one gives up selfishness in love, not expecting anything in return.
It also believes "God is love". A sacred text named Kanda Guru Kavasa quotes, " Oh holy Great flame, Grant me with love.. You said the spreading love is Para Brahma, For the thing which is everywhere is only Love, And Love is the only thing which is like a soul within us, Love is Kumara, Love is Kanda" This simply means Love is God.
The love of the Hindu deity Krishna with Radha and many other gopis (milkmaids) of Vrindavana is highly revered. His amorous dance with the gopis became known as the Rasa lila[50] and were romanticised in the poetry of Jayadeva, the author of Gita Govinda. These became important as part of the development of the Krishna bhakti traditions worshiping Radha Krishna.[51] (Source).
For the Sikhs:
Love is a positive and powerful tool in the Sikh's arsenal of virtues. When one's mind is full of love, one will overlook deficiencies in others and accept them wholeheartedly as a product of God. Sikhism asks all believers to take on godlike virtues, and this perhaps is the most godlike characteristic of all. Gurbani teaches that Waheguru is a "loving God" full of compassion and kindness. It is the duty of the Sikh to take on qualities of this nature and to easily forgive, never hate anyone, and live in Waheguru's Hukam and practise compassion and humility.” (Source).In Sikhism, love means love for the Lord and His creation. This is one of five virtues vigorously promoted by the Sikh Gurus. The other four qualities in the arsenal are truth (sat), contentment (santokh), compassion (daya), and humility (nimrata). These five qualities are essential for a Sikh and it is their duty to meditate on and recite the Gurbani so that these virtues become a part of their mindset.
“Given love is a divine thing, let us try to know how people in different cultures express their love to their dear and near ones :Japan: Surprisingly, Japanese language does not have any exact phrase that can be equal to ‘I Love U’. The closest phrase to ‘I Love You’ is “ai shiteiru“. Still this phrase is not necessarily voiced in a serious relationship. Therefore Japanese people uses other expressions to show their feelings or affection for their love.France: According to experts, the dating landscape in France is quite different than the rest of the world. The French usually say ‘I Love You’ to their partner within two months of dating or relationship. Not only that, people introduce their lover to friends after a few dates and parents in between one to three months.
South Korea: Koreans do not say ‘I Love You’ much to their partners. They usually avoid expressing feeling verbally. As per experts, when anyone feels that he or she are in love, they get aware of it. That’s ok for them. But this tendency is increasingly changing thanks to the exposure to western cultures and movies.Iraq: In Arabic, the word ‘ahibbik’ represents both love and like. Iraqi men in general pronounce this word to their love on their first meeting.
Nowadays when a man says ‘I love you’ can mean he is ready to take their relationship forward. Both Iranian men and women in general use this words to show their feelings to each other.Iran: In 20th century, a man saying ‘I Love You’ meant proposing a woman for marriage and is followed by his family meeting the woman’s parents to talk about their wedding. However, things took an ugly turn around 1979 when Islamic revolution brought in new social rules and started punishing couples who were not related to one another.
Expression of one’s fondness or likings to others may surely be different from culture to culture. But the taste or eternal meanings of love is quite the same regardless of every single person.“ (Source).China: In the country, men in the age group of 20-35 usually say ‘wo ai ni’ to women as a sign of showing love or affection. Before saying the phrase, the couple can hold hands and hang out together but perhaps refrain from having intimate acts or publicly accepting each other as boyfriend and girlfriend.
Love and Domestic Violence:
Surely Love and DV are definitely NOT complimentary actions. But yet, they sometimes seem to happen in the same relationships. How does this happen? Is it possible to have DV with someone that one loves? Or, is it practical to believe that when there is Love, there is never Domestic Violence?
And if you now feel more confused about what Love is than when you started this little study here, then it appears that you got the message.
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