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Mandatory D V O M B Core Competencies
What is the Domestic Violence Offender Management Board of Colorado (D V O M B)?
What is a Competency?
The list below contains the D V O M B Core
Competencies.
Each DV Offender in Colorado is required to have developed some sense of mastery of each Core Competency before he or she can successfully complete DV Offender Treatment.
As you read the following Competencies, ask yourself the following questions:
Am I confident that I understand this Competency Fully?
Could I define this Competency if I were called on to do so?
Could I explain this Competency in detail if I was asked to?
Could I describe this Competency as it relates to me and my life and my relationships -- past and present?
Could I share about how this Competency might be able to impact my life -- should I employ it?
Could I describe how this Competency might impact my relationships?
Could I explain how this Competency describes something that was or was not in the Relationship at the time I got my DV-related Charge?
Could I draw a mental picture about how this Core Competency -- should I learn about it, master it, and fully employ it -- How it could change my life in the long run; as well as the lives of those who are close to me?
Instructions:
Please Note: These D V O M B Core Competencies (below) are a Mandatory Requirement for DV Offenders in Colorado. The State Agency that manages DV Offender Treatment in Colorado is the D V O M B. And the D V O M B mandates that every DV Offender be required to master the following Core Competencies before they can be successfully discharged from DV Offender Treatment.
Imagine that the list below is on a Worksheet -- Please read each one of the D V O M B Core Competencies (below), and underneath each one, please describe what this Core Competency means to you in terms of how it could relate to you never again having DV-Type Thinking, DV-Type Feelings, DV-Type Behavior or a DV-Related Offense.
In other words, how could this Core Competency Help You PREVENT DV in the Future?
Please note that each Competency is denoted by a capital letter from the Alphabet and that the writing underneath each Competency contains further explanation of that Competency.
While you are reading, if there is a word that you do not understand, please say so. There is no shame in Googling a word like "Coercion". Or if you need more help you could email or text Dr. B and ask him. Also you could ask your nearest English, Criminal Justice or Psychology Major to explain it to you.
Also, please be clear that it does not matter whether or not one thinks that a given Competency on this List (below) does, or does not apply directly to them, or to their DV Offense.
What matters here is that in order to be able to eventually complete DV Offender Treatment in Colorado, one MUST master each of these Core Competencies (below). This is one opportunity you will to demonstrate that.
In other words, if there is a Competency about Psychological Abuse; it does not really matter whether or not there was Psychological Abuse in your relationship or involved in your offense. What matters is that by the time you are done with DV Treatment, you will have a much clearer and broader understanding about the concept of Psychological Abuse as it negatively impacts people, as well as how it relates to your Thinking, Feeling and Relationships; than you had before DV Treatment.
For example: if I was completing a response or a sentence related to the Personal Change Plan Competency, I could write: "My Personal Change Plan essentially includes themes such as ways that I could prevent Domestic Violence in my future. I realize how my behavior in the past has negatively impacted myself and others; and I am committed to changing my ways such that this will never happen again."
- A. Elimination of Abusive Behavior
- 1. Offender commits to the elimination of
abusive behavior:
- 2. Eliminates the use of physical intimidation,
psychological cruelty, or coercion toward one’s partner or children.
- B. Demonstration of Change
- 1. Offender demonstrates change by working on
the comprehensive personal change plan;
- 2. Begins implementing portions of the personal
change plan;
- 3. Accepts that working on abuse related issues
and monitoring them is an ongoing process;
- 4. Begins designing an Aftercare Plan;
- 5. Completes an Aftercare Plan and is prepared
to implement this plan after discharge from treatment.
- C. Personal Change Plan
- 1. Offender completes a comprehensive Personal Change Plan:
- 2. The Plan Reflects the level of treatment and has been
reviewed and approved by the MTT;
- 3. Driven by the offender’s risks (or Risk Factors) and level of
treatment.
- D. Empathy
- 1. Offender
development of empathy: Recognizes and verbalizes the effects of one’s actions
on one’s partner/victim;
- 2. Recognizes
and verbalizes the effects on children and other secondary and tertiary victims
such as neighbors, family, friends, and professionals;
- 3. Offers
helpful, compassionate response to others without turning attention back on
self (Recognizing Empathy Worksheet.).
- E. Responsibility
- 1. Offender accepts full responsibility for the
offense and abusive history;
- 2. Discloses the history of physical and
psychological abuse toward the offender’s victim(s) and children;
- 3. Overcomes the denial. minimization and blame that
accompany abusive behavior;
- 4. Makes increasing disclosures over time;
- 5. Accepts responsibility for the impact of
one’s abusive behavior on secondary, tertiary victims and the community;
- 6. Recognizes that abusive behavior is
unacceptable (abuse wrong-no excuses or justifications-no blaming)
- F. Understanding of offense, pattern of power
and control, cultural context
- 1. Offender identifies and progressively
reduces pattern of power and control behaviors, beliefs, and attitudes of
entitlement (Personal Pattern of Power & Control Behaviors Worksheet):
- 2. Recognizes that the violence was made
possible by a larger context of the offender’s behaviors and attitudes;
- 3. Identifies the specific forms of day-to-day
abuse and control, such as isolation that have been utilized, as well as the
underlying outlook and excuses that drove those behaviors;
- 4. Demonstrate behaviors, attitudes and beliefs
congruent with equality and respect in personal relationship
- G. Offender Accountability
- 1. Accepts responsibility for one’s abusive
behaviors,
- 2. Accepts the consequences of those abusive behaviors,
- 3. Actively works to repair the harm, and
prevent future abusive behavior;
- 4. Taking corrective actions to foster safety and
health for the victim
A. - Recognizes
and eliminates all minimizations of abusive behavior and without prompts
identifies one’s own abusive behaviors
B. - Demonstrates
full ownership for his/her actions and accepts the consequences of these
actions: The offender demonstrates an understanding of patterns for past
abusive actions and acknowledges the need to plan for future self-management
and further agrees to create the structure that makes accountability possible
C. - The
offender accepts that their partner or former partner and their children may
continue to challenge them regarding past or current behaviors. Should they behave abusively in the future,
they consider it their responsibility to report those behaviors honestly to
their friends and relatives, to their probation officer, and to others who will
hold them accountable
(Accountability Letter Practice Worksheet.)
- H. - Consequences and Choice
- 1. Offender accepts that one’s behavior has,
and should have, consequences;
- 2. Identifies the consequences of one’s own
behavior and challenges distorted thinking and understands that consequences are a result of one’s
actions or choices.
- 3. The offender makes decisions based on recognition of potential consequences; (Costs / Benefits Analysis)
- 4. Recognizes that the abusive behavior was a
choice, intentional and goal- oriented
- I. Offender participation and cooperation in
treatment:
- 1. Participates openly in treatment (e.g.
processing personal feelings, providing constructive feedback, identifying
one’s own abusive patterns,
- 2. Completes homework assignments,
- 3. Presents
letter of accountability,
- 4. Demonstrates
responsibility by attending treatment as required by the Treatment Plan
- J. Offender ability to define types of
domestic violence
- 1. Defines controlling behavior and all types of
domestic violence e.g. (a) physical, b) emotional, c) sexual, d) psychological,
e) animal abuse, f) property, g) financial, h) isolation & jealousy, i)
male privilege, j) intimidation, & k) coercion and threats.
- 2. Identifies
in detail the specific types of DV engaged in, and the destructive impact of
that behavior on the offender’s partner and children;
- 3. Demonstrates cognitive understanding of the
types of domestic violence as evidenced by giving examples and accurately label
situations; defines continuum of behavior from healthy to abusive. (Types of DV Worksheet.)
- K. Offender understanding, identification and
management of one’s personal pattern of violence
- 1. Acknowledges past/present violent/controlling/abusive
behavior;
- 2. Explores motivations;
- 3. Understands learned pattern of violence and
can explain it to others;
- 4. Disrupts pattern of violence prior to
occurrence of behavior
- L.
Offender understanding of intergenerational effects of violence;
- 1. Identifies and recognizes past victimization,
its origin, its type and impact;
- 2. Recognizes the impact of witnessed violence;
acknowledges that one’s upbringing has influenced current behaviors;
- 3. Develops and implements as a plan to
distance oneself from violent traditional tendencies, as well as cultural
roles. (Examples: Homework assignments such as the Genogram, violence
autobiography and timeline. (Brief Autobiography of violence Worksheet.)
- M. Offender understanding and use of appropriate communication skills:
- 1. Demonstrates non-abusive communication
skills that include how to respond respectfully to the offender’s partner’s
grievances
- 2. How to initiate and treat one’s partner as
an equal;
- 3. Demonstrates an understanding of the
difference between assertive, passive, passive aggressive, and aggressive
communication,
- 4. Makes appropriate choices in expressing
emotions;
- 5. Demonstrates appropriate active listening
skills
- N. Offender understanding and use of “time-outs” and Stop-Breathe-Focus
- 1. Recognizes the need for “time-outs” and/or
other appropriate self-management skills;
- 2. Understands
and practices all components of the time-out;
- 3. Demonstrates and is open to feedback
regarding the use of time-outs in therapy
- O. Offender recognition of financial abuse and management of financial responsibility
- 1. Consistently
meets financial responsibilities such as treatment fees, child support,
maintenance, court fees, and restitution; the MTT may choose to require the offender to
provide documentation that demonstrates financial responsibilities are being
met;
- 2. Maintains legitimate employment, unless verifiably or medically unable to work
- P. Violence and Abuse
- 1. Offender eliminates all forms of violence
and abuse
- 2. The
offender does not engage in further acts of abuse and commits no new DV
offenses or violent offenses against persons or animals.
- Q. Weapons
- 1. Offender prohibited from purchasing,
possessing, or using firearms or ammunition:
- 2. An exception may be made if there is a
specific court order allowing this – must provide written proof – treatment
provider must address safety plan/storage etc.
- R. Identification and challenge of cognitive distortions
- 1. Offender identifies and challenges cognitive
distortions that play a role in the offender’s violence
- 2. Offender demonstrates an understanding of
distorted view of self, others, and relationships (e.g. gender role
stereotyping, misattribution of power and responsibility, sexual entitlement)
Additional Competencies:
- S. Offender understanding and demonstration of responsible parenting:
- 1. Consistently fulfills all applicable
parenting responsibilities such as cooperating with the child/children’s other
parent regarding issues related to parenting,
- 2. follows established parenting plan and
appropriately uses parenting time including the safety and care of the
child/children;
- 3. Demonstrates an understanding that abuse
during pregnancy may present a higher risk to the victim and unborn child.
- 4. The offender demonstrates sensitivity to the
victim’s needs (physical, emotional, psychological, medical, financial, sexual,
social, during pregnancy;
- 5. Demonstrates appropriate interaction with
the children and partner in a co-parenting or step-parenting situation
- T. Offender identification of pro-social and/or community support and
demonstration of the ability to utilize the support in an appropriate manner
(sponsor, support person, etc. not the victim)
- U. Offender’s consistent compliance with any psychiatric and medical
recommendations for medication that may enhance the offender’s ability to
benefit from treatment and/or reduce the offender’s risk of re-offense.
- V. Offender’s consistent compliance with any alcohol or substance abuse evaluation
and treatment that may enhance the offender’s ability to benefit from treatment
and/or reduce the offender’s risk of re-offense
* Click Here to Complete the CORE COMPETENCIES WORKSHEET *
Below are some additional Worksheets that are part of this Process.
If you would like to learn more, feel free to click on any of these and complete them if you wish:
- DV Autobiography
- Personal Change Plan- Aftercare Planning Worksheet.- Statement of Responsibility (and Accountability)- Personal Mission Statement Worksheet.- Commitment Statement/Elimination of Abusive Behavior
(c. 2021, All information on the Blog (Except where otherwise noted); are the intellectual and/or photographic and/or digital property of Dr. William T. Beverly, L.C.S.W., D V O M B Approved Offender Treatment Provider.)
Six Key Parts of Emotional Intelligence:
1. Self Awareness
2. Self Regulation
3. Motivation
4. Empathy
5. Validation
6. Social Skills
EVER Thought About Moving Empathy Towards Sympathy...???
Dr. Martin Luther King was somewhat of a Genius when it came to Empathy. He actually convinced his marchers to have empathy for those who were attacking them in order to help their attackers to have empathy (and possibly even sympathy) for his marchers and their cause.
“Nonviolence
As a theologian, Martin Luther King reflected often on his understanding of nonviolence. He described his own “pilgrimage to nonviolence” in his first book, Stride Toward Freedom, and in subsequent books and articles. “True pacifism,” or “nonviolent resistance,” King wrote, is “a courageous confrontation of evil by the power of love” (Source). Both “morally and practically” committed to nonviolence, King believed that “the Christian doctrine of love operating through the Gandhian method of nonviolence was one of the most potent weapons available to oppressed people in their struggle for freedom” (Source).
King was first introduced to the concept of nonviolence when he read Henry David Thoreau’s Essay on Civil Disobedience as a freshman at Morehouse College. Having grown up in Atlanta and witnessed segregation and racism every day, King was “fascinated by the idea of refusing to cooperate with an evil system” (Source).
In 1950, as a student at Crozer Theological Seminary, King heard a talk by Dr. Mordecai Johnson, president of Howard University. Dr. Johnson, who had recently traveled to India, spoke about the life and teachings of Mohandas K. Gandhi. Gandhi, King later wrote, was the first person to transform Christian love into a powerful force for social change. Gandhi’s stress on love and nonviolence gave King “the method for social reform that I had been seeking” (Source).
While intellectually committed to nonviolence, King did not experience the power of nonviolent direct action first-hand until the start of the Montgomery bus boycott in 1955. During the boycott, King personally enacted Gandhian principles. With guidance from black pacifist Bayard Rustin and Glenn Smiley of the Fellowship of Reconciliation, King eventually decided not to use armed bodyguards despite threats on his life, and reacted to violent experiences, such as the bombing of his home, with compassion. Through the practical experience of leading nonviolent protest, King came to understand how nonviolence could become a way of life, applicable to all situations. King called the principle of nonviolent resistance the “guiding light of our movement. Christ furnished the spirit and motivation while Gandhi furnished the method” (Source).
King’s notion of nonviolence had six key principles.
During the years after the bus boycott, King grew increasingly committed to nonviolence. An India trip in 1959 helped him connect more intimately with Gandhi’s legacy. King began to advocate nonviolence not just in a national sphere, but internationally as well: “the potential destructiveness of modern weapons” convinced King that “the choice today is no longer between violence and nonviolence. It is either nonviolence or nonexistence” (Source).
After Black Power advocates such as Stokely Carmichael began to reject nonviolence, King lamented that some African Americans had lost hope, and reaffirmed his own commitment to nonviolence: “Occasionally in life one develops a conviction so precious and meaningful that he will stand on it till the end. This is what I have found in nonviolence” (Source). He wrote in his 1967 book, Where Do We Go from Here: Chaos or Community?: “We maintained the hope while transforming the hate of traditional revolutions into positive nonviolent power. As long as the hope was fulfilled there was little questioning of nonviolence. But when the hopes were blasted, when people came to see that in spite of progress their conditions were still insufferable … despair began to set in” (Source). Arguing that violent revolution was impractical in the context of a multiracial society, he concluded: “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that. The beauty of nonviolence is that in its own way and in its own time it seeks to break the chain reaction of evil” (Source)."
Finally, it should be noted that along these lines, Dr. King also wrote: "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. "
Wrap - Up:
If we practice more Non-Violence; we can develop more Empathy for others and for ourselves as well; and if you can practice Emotional Intelligence, then we can also develop even more Empathy for Others and for ourselves. And if we can have more empathy for others; we can understand them better; and then -- if we really try, we will be more likely to be able to co-exist peacefully.
Footnotes for King Piece:
King, “Pilgrimage to Nonviolence,” 13 April 1960, in Papers 5:419–425.
King, Stride Toward Freedom, 1958.
King, Where Do We Go from Here, 1967.” (SOURCE).
Other King Citations in Text Above (In order of presentation): King, Stride, 80; King, Stride, 73; King, Stride, 79; Papers 5:423; King, Stride, 84; Stride, 85; King; King, Stride, 86; King, Stride, 88; Papers 5:424; King, Where, 63–64; King, Where, 45; King, Where, 62–63; Stride, 79; Papers 5:422).
From Sad, Scary and Troubled Beginnings; To Learning, Changing and Winning.
When people first come to DV Tx, they are sad, angry, lonely, disappointed, feeling like The Victim, In Shock from Jail, and generally just dissatisfied with Criminal Justice System -- Police, DA's, Courts, Judges, Probation, and DV Tx Providers
Whereas the GOAL of DV Treatment is to Participate Consistently and in a Meaningful Way, in order Make some good Changes.
People go from Feeling like it was not my fault, It was their fault, It is the System's Fault, and on and on; to -- if they are successful -- a point where they realize that it doesn't matter who's fault it is... you are in this situation, so you might as well just get through it.
In order to get through it, we need to Learn; we need to change some (a little if not a lot), and we all need to win.
Yet, in such a situation; it is hard to feel like you are winning when you got arrested, cavity searched, insulted, humiliated, embarrassed, tried and convicted, sentenced, insulted again, embarrassed some more, assigned to a P.O. or Jail or Both, and then finally.... referred to DV Offender Treatment.
Then you have to put up with Embarrassing Evaluations, Weekly, Group Meetings, Drug Tests, DV Reviews, Probation Meetings -- and/or Behavior Contracts, Therapy, More DV Groups etc... etc... etc..
Yet in the midst of this.... everyone still has choices. Do I make a fool of myself and intentionally NOT do what the Court tells me to do; or do I do it, and eventually, this all becomes a thing of my past.
It seems that one of the smartest things a person could do in this situation would to sign up for DV Treatment, Attend all Intake and Evaluation sessions, attend all groups, attend all Treatment Planning Sessions, and do all the homework, fill out all paperwork, pay the fees, and then start LEARNING And MAKING CHANGES.
The sooner a person starts doing all that is required, and also putting their best effort into learning what ways to prevent DV; the sooner a person makes positive changes, learns more and more, and moves along towards their finish line in a good way.
Meanwhile, this whole process really gets its wings once a person begins to actually spend time thinking about things such as the following:
Why are we Talking About Financial Responsibility, Financial Abuse, Economic Abuse and Domestic Violence Right Here and Now?
Well, it's complicated. Perhaps the first question to be answered here could be: What does the Domestic Violence Offender Management Board (D.V.O.M.B.) say about Financial Abuse and Economic Abuse? The D.V.O.M.B. requires that this type of Abuse be included in the Treatment of people who have committed Domestic Violence Offenses. This is probably because some Research has reported that among couples where Domestic Violence has occurred; about 98% have also included Economic Abuse.
This means that in keeping with the D.V.O.M.B. Standards, if a DV Client does not have a Voucher from Probation; she or he must pay their Domestic Violence Treatment Provider for the services provided. This also means that a DV Treatment Provider cannot and will not successfully discharge any DV Client who has an outstanding Balance.
Hence, this week's session is about respecting Financial and Economic boundaries in all kinds of relationships from personal Intimate Relationships, to friendships to professional relationships and yes even in treatment relationships.
Why is Financial Responsibility important in Domestic Violence Offender Treatment?
Clearly, The Domestic Violence Offender
Management Board of Colorado feels that Paying for Treatment is somehow germane
to, or related to positive Treatment Outcomes.
If nothing else, paying for Treatment indicates that a client has a really good
attitude about their treatment. It also indicates that a client values what he
or she is learning in treatment. Finally, paying for Treatment is a good indication of positive change.
This is also important because Domestic
Violence offenses are largely about people not respecting their partner and or
not respecting themselves. And in many cases both of the partners are not
respecting each other or themselves either. Without Respect, Relationships typically break apart. Relationships need a lot of Respect in order to Survive and Thrive.
What do Boundaries Have to do with Domestic Violence; Much Less Economic or Financial Abuse?
One of the most important parts of learning
how to have more respect in relationships is that of recognizing all the
different ways that boundaries were being disrespected during a relationship.
And then also recognizing ways one can start respecting boundaries in a
relationship.
What are some of the boundary types that are sometimes disrespected -- either openly or even covertly -- in abusive relationships?
What Does It
Mean To Be Financially Responsible?
Being financially responsible means you have
a process for managing your money that is productive and in your best interest
overall. A cornerstone of financial responsibility is saving to protect
yourself and the things you have. Here’s a look at a few other behaviors of a
financially responsible person:
What is
domestic violence? / What is domestic abuse?
“We define domestic abuse as an incident or
pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening, degrading and
violent behaviour, including sexual violence, in the majority of cases by a
partner or ex-partner, but also by a family member or carer. It is very common.
In the vast majority of cases it is experienced by women and is perpetrated by
men.
Domestic abuse
can include, but is not limited to, the following:
How are
Finances and Domestic Violence Sometimes Connected?
"When domestic violence becomes a national conversation, it’s often only after the curtain is pulled back on an otherwise respected, high-profile celebrity. The ensuing uproar makes headlines for a few days, maybe weeks, and then fades back into news-cycle obscurity. But for the millions of victims of domestic abuse—more than one in four women in the U.S., according to the Department of Justice—these headlines ignore a less-visible, longer-lasting damage wrought by their abusers: financial abuse.
By blocking or controlling access to financial assets, abusers can coerce their victims into staying with them or coming back if they try to leave, locking them into a cycle of abuse. In fact, “lacking financial knowledge or resources is the number one indicator of whether a domestic violence victim will stay, leave, or return to an abusive relationship,” according to the Allstate Foundation’s Purple Purse, a fundraising and public awareness campaign.”
“Financial abuse, whether you’re talking about ruining her credit, getting her fired or hiding the money, is just as effective in controlling an abuse victim as a lock and key,” Kim Gandy, president of the National Network to End Domestic Violence, told The Huffington Post.
Financial abuse is insidious: It can first appear as a considerate offer to take care of the bills, or a casual request to borrow money. But it escalates until the abuser has full control of every bank account, credit card, and paycheck, which means that even if victims escape, they could have no way to rent a new apartment, find a job, or care for their children.
Unfortunately, it seems that while the majority of abusers have discovered that truth, the rest of society has yet to catch up. A 2014 survey commissioned by the Allstate Foundation found that while 98 percent of domestic-violence victims also experienced financial abuse, 78 percent of Americans had not heard about financial abuse as it relates to domestic violence." (Source.)
What is Financial Abuse?
"Research indicates that financial abuse occurs in 99% of domestic violence cases. Surveys of survivors reflect that concerns over their ability to provide financially for themselves and their children was one of the top reasons for staying in or returning to an abusive partner." (Source.)
"Financial abuse is an aspect of ‘coercive control’ – a pattern of controlling, threatening and degrading behaviour that restricts a victims’ freedom.
It’s important to understand that financial abuse seldom happens in isolation: in most cases perpetrators use other abusive behaviours to threaten and reinforce the financial abuse.
Financial abuse involves a perpetrator using or misusing money which limits and controls their partner’s current and future actions and their freedom of choice. It can include using credit cards without permission, putting contractual obligations in their partner’s name, and gambling with family assets. [1]
Financial abuse can leave women with no money for basic essentials such as food and clothing. It can leave them without access to their own bank accounts, with no access to any independent income and with debts that have been built up by abusive partners set against their names. Even when a survivor has left the home, financial control can still be exerted by the abuser with regard to child maintenance.
Sadly the vast majority of survivors experience financial abuse at some point."(Source.)
Financial abuse might come in different forms including:
"These are some common forms of
financial abuse—and resources to help protect or recover from it.
What is economic abuse?
"Economic abuse is a situation in which someone harms another person in a close relationship using money or property, for example by controlling how they are able to get or spend money, or preventing them being able to buy things that they need:
With economic abuse, money becomes a way to control the victim.
Economic abuse can also include restricting access to essential resources such as food, clothing, or transport." (Source.)
How might economic abuse impact the victim of domestic violence?
Ways One Might Overcome Financial Abuse or Economic Abuse in a Relationship: What is shared responsibility?
From "Stop Playing the Blame Game and
Take Responsibility in Your Relationship, by Katie Christy, Wtiters'
Corps" we find some wise words about Why Taking Responsibility is
Important?
"Taking ownership and responsibility for your actions is an important part of healthy relationships. Doing so is an empowering reminder that you have control over the role you play in your relationship. Taking responsibility creates trust and dependability. When you take responsibility for your behaviors, you demonstrate to your partner your willingness to be honest and vulnerable, which in turns encourages your partner to be open and authentic with you."
"For you, taking responsibility looks like practicing self-awareness. Another way is being able to apologize and accept that what you do affects your partner. For your partner, taking responsibility looks like having open communication with you about their feelings and being willing to admit they can grow from the hard parts of the relationship. Your partner learns to take responsibility when they own their behaviors and hold themselves accountable to their actions." (Source.)
Economic partnership, Shared Responsibility and Negotiation and fairness.
The Equality Wheel from Duluth suggests that
healthier relationships often have properties such as partners who practice:
Some Ideas on Improving Your Partnership-Ability in your Relationship:
"Certain behaviors make a difference in relationship happiness. These maintenance behaviors often come naturally, but intentional efforts to engage in them could benefit relationships. Research (Stafford, 2010) underscores the power of these seven behaviors in particular in predicting relationship satisfaction, liking, love, and commitment:
Seriously consider the following Questions and you should be able to come up with some answers:
If you have any questions about how to pay for DV Sessions, please Text Dr. B. at 719-671-7793 or email him at nepeht@gmail.com. Thank you.
>>> Always Keep In Mind: It's a whole
lot easier on everyone if you just pay as you go.<<<
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