Dr. B's DV Prevention & Education Blog: November 2022

Monday, November 21, 2022

Dr. B's New Schedule of Group Sessions IS CHANGING again. Check it out!

PLEASE NOTE: This Is the New DV Treatment Group Schedule. In the future, it may change. Be Sure To Read This Entire Post and Form Here, Click on all of the Links (below), Complete of the Linked Forms that these Links lead to, and Follow the Instructions Below throughout your DV Treatment. Thank you!

(This NEW Schedule of Groups Begins November 9th, 2022.)

Please read these Top Ten Essentials:

1. TREATMENT SETTINGS: Please NOTE: (All of Dr. B's DV Treatment Sessions are In-Person at this point in time except for those persons who due to serious Disability or other debilitating circumstances that make it literally impossible for this person to attend In-Person. In order to conduct any sessions remotely (as of October 1, 2022) both Dr. B and the Client must have special equipment and software. If any remote sessions are scheduled, this must be by Special Prior Arrangement with Dr. B and they will be billed at the higher Individual Session Rate.)

2. JUMPING GROUPS: If you are planning to start attending a Group that you have never attended, or if you are planning to attend a Group that you normally do not attend, please try to let Dr. B know about this at least 24 hours in advance of that Group Session. And please do so via Text message.

3. IN-PERSON GROUP DISCLOSURE: It is important that if attending an In-person Group that you complete this In-Person Group Session Attendance Disclosure & Consent Form prior to attending).

4. GROUP LOCATIONS: If you plan to attend one of these Groups and you do not know where they are, please TEXT Dr. B. and he will send you the address.

5. COMPLETING WORKSHEETS: Please note that regardless of how a person attends any DV Session, she/he is responsible for completing the Worksheet(s) for that DV Session online on that day. The link for Worksheets is typically at or near the bottom of the Blog Entry for that week. So every time you attend a Group, you will be expected to complete the weekly DV Topic Worksheet (typically done online) that will be Linked to the Weekly Topic on the Blog which can be found at this Link here: Dr Bs DV Prevention & Education Blog or at https://drbsdvpreventionandeducation.blogspot.com/ It is your responsibility to get these done every week. If you have a challenge that makes it impossible for you to complete your work this way; or if you need help learning how to do this, it is your responsibility to get help from someone you know with this task, or to TEXT Dr. B and get help with this task. It is important that you understand that if these worksheets are not completed, you cannot complete your DV Treatment.

6. SESSION FEEDBACK FORMS: Each Time you Attend a DV Treatment Session, you will also be required to complete a Session Feedback Form (typically done online) that can be found on the Blog anywhere you find an American Flag on this Blog, or AT THIS LINK RIGHT HERE. Or just go the Link listed below: https://drbsdvpreventionandeducation.blogspot.com/2020/04/thank-you-for-visiting-dr-bs-dv.html Sometimes -- but rarely -- Worksheets and Feedback forms can be completed on paper if provided by Dr. Beverly. Either way, it is your responsibility to see that your weekly Worksheets and Feedback Forms are completed before you finish your DV Treatment. It is your responsibility to get these done every week. If these are not completed, you cannot complete your DV Treatment.

7. PAYING FOR YOUR TREATMENT SESSIONS: Please also note that regardless of how a person attends any DV Session, she/he is also responsible for paying the fee for the Group Session online or in-person at the time of the Session. Every client is required to pay for their DV Treatment Services every week as they attend. Please CLICK THIS LINK RIGHT HERE to learn about how to pay for your DV Treatment, or just go to this Link listed here. https://drbsdvpreventionandeducation.blogspot.com/2022/01/very-important-notice-about-paying-for.html If these payments are not made in full, you cannot complete your DV Treatment.

8. ABSENCES: Also, if you miss a week of DV Treatment, you are required to complete an Absence Attestation form which is AT THIS LINK RIGHT HERE, or may also be located by using this Link listed here: https://drbsdvpreventionandeducation.blogspot.com/2020/05/absence-attestation-complete-your.html If these attestations are not completed, you cannot complete your DV Treatment. Also Please Note: Once you start attending one of these Groups, it is best if you stick with the same Group throughout your Treatment. It is also best to NOT miss more than 2 Sessions throughout the course of your treatment. Anyone with 3 or more absences may be subject to involuntary discharge.

9. YOUR RESPONSIBILITY: You should know about, understand and do every task as described above every week. This is your responsibility. If you get behind, it is your responsibility to keep up with where you are. And it is your responsibility to catch up right away..

10. ALWAYS BE RESPECTFUL: Please keep in mind that this DV Treatment is being provided by skilled professionals with the intent of helping you improve your life, improve your relationships, and complete your Court, Probation, Diversion or Parole requirements. Please always be respectful to Staff, Fellow Clients, and the Facility. And please remember that confidentiality about who you see here and what they say here while in Group Sessions is an essential part of showing Respect. Thank you.

Misc FORM LINKS: Please complete the following forms BEFORE attending any more DV Sessions: The Top 10 Treatment Essentials Agreement. Group Treatment Consent Form and the Making Payments and Settling Balances Agreement. <<< DV Session Feedback Form >>>. All Clients are Required to complete these forms found at these link on this page. As a Reminder: Be prepared to pay for your Treatment when you arrive at the Location (Card or Cash). If you have any other questions about Paying for Your Treatment Sessions, please CLICK HERE. Also, please find these links and more at the bottom of this page and at various other places on this BLOG.

Thank you.

NEW Schedule of Dr. B's DV Groups (as of November 9th, 2022):

Mondays:

-- WOMEN's Walsenburg Mon. Afternoon DV Group (In-Person) [Mondays at 10 a.m. to 11:30 a.m.]

-- MEN's Trinidad Mon. Afternoon DV Group (In-Person) [Mondays at 1 to 2:30 p.m.]

-- WOMEN's Trinidad Mon. Evening DV Group (In-Person) [Mondays at 6 to 7:30 p.m.]

Tuesdays:

-- WOMEN's Monte Vista Tues. Afternoon DV Group (In-Person Only) [Tuesdays at 2 to 3:30 p.m.]

-- MEN's Monte Vista Tues. Early Evening DV Group (In-Person). [Tuesdays at 4 to 5:30 p.m.]

-- MEN's Alamosa Tues. Evening DV Group (In-Person).

[Tuesdays at 7 to 8:30 p.m.]

Wednesdays:

-- MEN's Alamosa Weds. Morning DV Group (In Person.) [Wednesdays at 9 am to 10:30 a.m.)]

-- WOMEN's Alamosa Weds. Afternoon DV

Group (In Person). [Wednesdays 1 to 2:30 p.m.]

-- MEN's Alamosa Weds. Evening DV Group (In Person).

[Wednesdays 6 p.m.. to 7:30 p.m.]

Thursdays:

-- MEN's Walsenburg Thurs. Evening DV Group (In-Person). [Thurs 7 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.]

Fridays:

-- MEN's Trinidad Fri. Evening DV Group (In-Person). [Fri. from 7:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.]

Feel free to Text Dr. B. if you have any questions after completing each of the forms below:

CLICK HERE TO COMPLETE The Top 10 Treatment Essentials Agreement

*** Please click on this Link Here in order to Review

and Complete the NEW Group Consent Form. ***

>>> And ALSO, Please Click Here to Complete the

Paying for DV Treatment and Paying Balances Form. <<<

<<< DV Session Feedback Form >>>

(Post Revised 11/09/2022; Originally Published Tuesday, September 14, 2021)

Monday, November 14, 2022

Understanding The DV Incident Checklist

What is the Domestic Violence INCIDENT CHECKLIST?
The Domestic Violence Incident Checklist is a form that contains a number of very basic labels or descriptions of Domestic Violence - types of behaviors that can lead to Criminal Charges.

This Checklist sometimes helps

during a DV Offense -- or a series of DV Offenses, Police, District Attorneys, Victim Advocates, Victims, Offenders, Probation Officers and DV Offender Treatment Providers more readily understand what has reportedly happened

Better still, this Checklist makes it much easier for a Victim (or an alleged Victim) of DV to report what she or he has experienced during the (alleged) DV Offense.

It is important to understand that just because something is not on this list; it does not mean that it is not DV. Some DV Behaviors are probably not contained in this list.

Why is this Checklist Important to People Who Have Been Charged with DV?

This is a super easy way for a person who has been Accused, Convicted or taken a Plea with a Domestic Violence Enhancer to better understand precisely what he / she has been accused of doing and/or may have actually done; that is considered illegal behavior.

This Checklist -- within the Context of This Domestic Violence Treatment -- is about Prevention.

How can this Checklist help prevent DV? It is simple: Never do any of the behaviors that are described in this Checklist. Like NEVER!!! Even if you find yourself thinking about doing one or more of these things to someone, please get help. Think about it. Take a time out. Do anything -- other than hurting yourself or anyone else -- you need to do in order to prevent yourself from doing that.

Why not do any of these behaviors? ..... Really? Doing any of these behaviors can cause serious physical or emotional harm to the victim as well as to witnesses -- especially children. And doing such behaviors can also cause you to get another DV Charge..

What if I was accused of doing something on this Checklist, but I did not do it?

Unfortunately, at this point, you would not be in the DV Treatment with Dr. B if you had not been either been Convicted of DV, Taken a Plea for DV, or Been Placed on Diversion as a result of a DV Charge. Dr. B cannot change your charges or anything like that. If you have additional questions about that, you can always speak to an Attorney.

What if I did not do any of the things on this Checklist?

Good for you! One possibility is that you were totally framed and/or someone lied about you to the Police. And you are totally innocent.

However, here you are with charges. If that is the case, then one naturally asks:

Are you still with this person?
Would it not be Risky to stay with this person after they have done this to you?
Why are you still with this person?

What behaviors are included on the DV Incident Checklist?

People who fill out this form are asked also to clarify the following as they check off items:

Location Where Abuse Occurred
Date(s) of Incident(s)
Physical Injury, if Any
Police Contact?

Those who fill out one of these Checklists are also advised of the following:

"WARNING: This form is provided to help you prepare for your hearing. You may keep it or you may file it with your complaint. IF YOU DO FILE IT, IT WILL BECOME A PART OF THE PUBLIC RECORD AND WILL BE SERVED ON THE RESPONDENT AS A PART OF THE COMPLAINT."

Note: These are the Items listed on the DV Incident Checklist (Each of these might constitute Abuse in and of itself; or in combination with other behaviors that are or are not on this list):

Name-calling/Directed Use of Obscenities
Threatening/Harassing Phone Calls
Threat to Injure Self
Threat to Injure Others
Threat by Physical or Sexual Abuse to Children
Threat by Displaying or Pointing Weapon, or by Access to Weapon
Threat by Cruelty to Animals
Threat by Following
Threat by Damage to Property
Throwing Things
Grabbing
Shoving or Pushing
Forcing Sexual Contact
Physically Abusing Children in Household
Sexually Abusing Children in Household
Slapping (with an open hand)
Punching (with a closed fist)
Kicking
Using Weapon
Biting
Choking or Strangling
Beating
Forcing Other to Stay in Closet, Room, Homes, or Other Locations

When digesting this list, one way to look at it is to accept that all the behaviors on there can be illegal. But in some cases, certain behaviors will be present, and it is clearly wrongful behavior; however, in some cases, the Charge does not contain it. On the other hand, sometimes the DA might stick what seem to be extra charges onto the Charge Sheet in order to influence someone to take a plea.

What are some Questions that you might have regarding the items on this list?

Perhaps the next thing to do after understanding this list and how it is used would be to work out ways of preventing this sort of behavior. This begins with accepting the fact that this behavior is never acceptable.

Think about this. What kinds of things can a person do to stop such behaviors, before they happen?

*** Please Click Here to Complete your DV Incident Checklist Worksheet. ***

(Originally Posted. 9/7/2020).

(c. 2020, William T. Beverly, Ph.D., LCSW, All information on the Blog (Except where otherwise noted); are the intellectual and/or photographic and/or digital property of Dr. William T. Beverly, L.C.S.W., DVOMB Approved Offender Treatment Provider.).

Sunday, November 6, 2022

Dr. B's DV Prevention Topic & Worksheets List and Links to Mandatory Worksheets (Partial): Remember, In order to successfully complete Dr. B's DV Prevention Class, everyone must complete and submit all of the Worksheets listed below.

Dr. B's DV Prevention Worksheets List (Partial)

(This List Currently Includes Links going back through June 2022)

(DO NOT WAIT to get this done. For every week there is at least one worksheet that must be completed and successfully submitted. You may ask for Help; but DO NOT Ask Dr. B which ones you have already done or have not yet done. If you are unsure, then do them all. There is at least one due per week. You are responsible for knowing that. The Worksheets are mentioned every week as they are listed below each Blog Topic and also mentioned by the Facilitator. This is your responsibility.

Be sure to check the Blog every week around Monday Evening and you will find the current week's Lesson as well as the Worksheet that is due by the end of the week. Click on the on the Worksheet and complete it by Sunday or as soon as you can.

When you click on the Topic Title Link below for each Weekly Topic, you will find the information about that Topic. After you have gone to that link, at or near the bottom of that topic's text, you will find the Link to the Worksheet for that Topic highlighted in Yellow.

So just click on the Titles below and you will find the that Weekly Topic and below the text, you will find that weekly topic's Link to the corresponding Worksheet.

You can do this! So get busy!

If you have questions about how to complete these Worksheets then send Dr. B. a Text Message at 719-671-7793 and he will help you.)

Some Links to Recent Weekly Topics and Worksheets are listed below: