Why Do We NOT Report DV?

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Why Do We Typically NOT Report Domestic Violence Events?  And Why Not?

• Fear of retaliation by the perpetrator.
• Fear of negative judgment from all the Haters.
• Fear of getting called a cop caller.
•   Because we don't want them to get into trouble....   
• Because I still love him.
• I didn't think he would call; so I didn't call.
• I wouldn't want to be around the Law...  (I don't want them in my business?
• Like if you have a house and kids together; it makes you separate.  And that could bring abotu a change that you are not ready for.  (You could suddenly lose your house, your cats etc...).
• Maby we think it's just not that serious.
• Or maby we are convinced nobody's going to care if they hear about it.

• Why should a person report DV to Police?
• If it is dangerous.

• What could happen if one does not call Police after a situation where there is DV?
• They could die... get seriously hurt... the kids could get involved and get seriously hurt...
• Plenty of trauma to go around.
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• Fear of secondary problems becoming the focus of low enforcement -- Like if a search yields serious drugs.

• Fear of the unknown.

• How old does a child have to be to remember DV.
• Possibly age 5 or so...  but at 3, a child can remember the spirit of the trauma.

• Some adults have a tendency to Minimize potential harms to children.  Like a mother might say, "I'll quit smoking by the time Junior is two."

"Can a 2 year old remember trauma?

AI Overview

Yes, a 2-year-old can experience and be deeply affected by trauma, but they will not remember it the same way older children or adults do. 

Better Health Channel

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At age two, the brain's hippocampus (which stores conscious, story-like memories) is still developing. Therefore, a toddler usually cannot recall the exact details, dates, or narrative of what happened. However, they do store what is known as implicit memory. 

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Implicit memory encodes emotions, bodily sensations (like muscle tension or a racing heart), and physical behaviors. Even if they cannot articulate the event, a toddler's body and nervous system can remember the feeling of fear or lack of safety. This can manifest as: 

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Physiological reactions: Clenched jaws, changes in breathing, or startled responses when exposed to sensory reminders (sights, sounds, or smells) associated with the trauma.

Behavioral changes: Clinginess, regression in potty training or speech, sleep disturbances, or intense separation anxiety. 

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Because young children rely heavily on sensory and emotional cues rather than cognitive processing, they are highly attuned to the distress of their caregivers. Ensuring a safe, stable, and predictable environment is key to helping a toddler process and heal from distressing experiences. If you suspect a 2-year-old has experienced trauma, consulting with a pediatric mental health specialist who specializes in early childhood trauma is highly recommended. 

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• What might be the benefits of Reporting a DV Offense that you are the Victim of?

• Might not be getting abused any more.
• Like to get away.
• the childen are no longer exposed to it.
• You could lose 
• Making them leave.
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What might be the benefits of Reporting a DV Offense that you are not the Victim or the Perpetrator of?

Losing your job. 

•  Maby you are the last chance for the kids before they get really traumatized.

 

 "how many domestic violence type events typically occur in a couple before someone calls the poliice?"

"There is no single specific number of events that trigger a call, but research indicates victims often endure 35 to 40 incidents of abuse before contacting the police.

Because domestic violence is notoriously underreported, experts and victim advocates emphasize the following dynamics:Reporting Rates: According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics, only about 45% to 50% of intimate partner physical violence is reported to law enforcement.Escalation:

Abusive behaviors often start with emotional or verbal abuse, escalating to physical altercations over time, which delays the initial call for help. 

Barriers to Calling: Victims often face barriers like fear of retaliation, financial dependence, and lack of safe alternatives, which prolong the time before they reach out. 

If you are experiencing domestic violence or want to help someone who is, you can connect with advocates 24/7. 

National Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 800-799-SAFE (7233) or text "START" to 88788. 

You can find more resources on The Hotline.Local Colorado Resources: For confidential advocacy, emergency shelter, and support services near Walsenburg, visit the Colorado Coalition Against Domestic Violence. 

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call 911.Would you like help locating local shelters or finding legal advocacy programs in the Walsenburg, CO area?"  (Source)

"Why should a person who knows about a domestic violence incident call the police?"  

Like, if it's life threatening.  (If.g., if there is a deadly weapon involved.)

If the kids are witnissing it or being drawn into it. 

 "At what point during conflict should you call the police?

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"At what point during conflict should you call the police?

AI Overview

Call the police immediately if a conflict involves physical violence, the use of weapons, or explicit threats of harm. You should also dial emergency services if the situation escalates rapidly, you feel trapped or in imminent danger, or if a mental health crisis is causing severe, uncontrollable distress. 

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Knowing exactly when to involve law enforcement depends on how quickly a verbal argument is escalating. Consider these guidelines:

When to Call Immediately (Dial 911)

Physical Altercations: If anyone shoves, hits, strikes, or physically restrains another person, it has crossed into assault.

Weapons are Present: If a weapon is brandished, or if someone threatens to get one.

Imminent Danger: If you feel unsafe, trapped, or believe the situation will inevitably turn violent.

Severe Mental Health Crises: If an individual's behavior poses a danger to themselves or others, especially if they are completely detached from reality or acting highly erratically. 

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When to Wait or Exercise Caution

Mere Disagreements: Experts advise against calling the police purely to "scare" someone, settle trivial civil matters, or resolve a tense conversation that remains entirely verbal and non-threatening. 

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Mandatory Arrest Laws: Be aware that in many jurisdictions, police responding to domestic disputes are legally required to make an arrest if they establish probable cause of a crime (such as an assault or credible threat), regardless of whether the victim wants them to or not. "

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