TABLE OF CONTENTS for DV Treatment: Below are The Basic Necessities for Completing Domestic Violence Treatment. These Links Below lead to the Topics and the Worksheets that are part of DV Treatment Requirements. These Worksheets are Required for Successful Completion of DV Treatment.

  There are several things that must be done in order to Successfully Complete DV Treatment.  Before you start, you should read the Treatment Orientation Posting.  Also take a look at the Schedule of Groups.

  The first requirement is that I attend all sessions, take the lessons seriously, and demonstrate positive change change in my thinking.  You definitely should not have missed more than 2 or 3 DV Sessions.  If you missed any sessions, you should have informed Dr B as to why you missed.  Fact of the matter is; if I missed any DV Sessions, I should complete an Absences Attestation for each one.

  Another requirement for successful completion of DV Treatment is that 100% of my Balance is paid off.  Remember, your P.O. is NOT required to give you Vouchers to pay for your DV Treatment.  But if you need a Voucher to pay for your DV Treatment, you must speak with your P.O. (nicely) about this matter if you hope to get any help from them paying for your DV Sessions.  The sooner you do this, the better.  Because they can only give you vouchers or you that will cover DV Sessions starting the day you ask for them.  Finally, it is important that you understand that any amount that is not covered by vouchers is an amount that you will owe for your DV Treatment.

  The third requirement is to understand that any really good DV Treatment Participant is also filling out a Session Feedback Form at the end of each session.

  The fourth requirement is to know that any one who wishes to Successfully Complete Domestic Violence Offender Treatment, must be sure that I All of of their Worksheets are completed and successfully submitted online.  

  Some of the most important DV Topics are those listed below.  Even if you have done these before, they really must be gone over again to make double-sure that you completely understand how you will never again have any more DV in your relationships.

Important:

  Go to each of the Links below and complete the  worksheets that they have links to. 

Dr. B's DV Prevention & Education Blog: Treatment Planning for Success (drbsdvpreventionandeducation.blogspot.com) 

Autobiography of Violence Worksheet

DVOMB Mandatory Core Competencies

    Core Competencies Worksheet

BRIEF CORE COMPETENCIES CHECK-UP: Where Do I Think that I am in my DV Treatment???

Managing Conflict Effectively: And Prevention of Domestic Violence

Learning about Chain Analysis in order Prevent Domestic Violence: A DBT-Type Method

Understanding our Values and Using our Virtues to Prevent Domestic Violence

Understanding Different Types of Domestic Violence - 

        CLICK HERE >>>- Types of DV Worksheet 

The Vagina Monologues -- Decades of Altruistic Efforts to Improve the Lives of Girls, Women, and Yes; the Entire Planet!

Overcoming Denial  -- Being Responsible or Being in Denial Worksheet

Overcoming Minimization, Denial and Blame -- Moving Toward Accountability

    Minimization, Denial & Blame Worksheet

The Role of Anger in Domestic Violence -- Anger and DV Worksheet

Taking Time Outs

Understanding Communication for Healthy Relationships

Getting Ready to Take Full Accountability For My Domestic Violence Offense and Moving Forward: What Is Real-Time Accountability?

DVTPA: Domestic Violence Treatment Progress Assessment

My Domestic Violence Treatment Check-In and Check-Up!

The Effects of Using Children During and After a Relationship

The Duluth Power & Control Wheels

The EFFECTS of Using Power and Control in Relationships

Using Equality for Healthier Relationships

Balancing Our Empathy With Our Own Needs Particularly During Troubled Times

Developing Empathy

The Fallacy of Control -- Controlling Behaviors

Types of DV Worksheet

What is Love?

Making Better Choices: Poor Choices, versus Mistakes, Accidents and Victimhood

Mindfulness and Prevention of DV: Where was I when my DV Happened?

Mandatory Empathy Panel Presentation at SLVBHG 8/8/2028 

Empathy Panel Week Worksheets for Everyone to Complete even if they did not attend the Empathy Panel.

Cycle of Violence

Potential Risk Factors for DV: Knowing your Risk Factors 

Healthy Boundaries

Codependency, Relationships and Domestic Violence

Introduction to Basic DBT Skills for Prevention of DV-Type Thinking, Feeling and Domestic Violence Itself

What Happens When We Violate Somebody's Rights

Cognitive Distortions

The Effects of Domestic Violence on Children -- A Reminder

Building On Individual Values And A Personal Mission Statement For Domestic Violence Prevention

Moving from Being Considered the "Offender" in a Domestic Violence Case, (yet Feeling Like a Victim); Toward Becoming an Accountable Survivor

Using The Control Log Process In Order to Prevent Domestic Violence

Personal Change Plan

PLANS -- PLANS -- PLANS !!!  Time to Get It Done!!!

Understanding DV From a Trauma-Informed Perspective 

    Trauma-Informed DV Victim Empathy Worksheet 

Communicating for Healthy Relationships

Personality Disorders, Other Psychiatric Disorders, Substance Use, and Domestic Violence

How Do I Talk About My DV Offense?  What if they won't let it go?

DV and The Holidays and Domestic Violence:  The Holidays can be a Great Time to Move Forward: Planning for a Nourishing and SAFE Holiday

Getting Ready for a NEW YEAR: Planning for A Year without Domestic Violence and A Year with Healthier Relationships 

My Domestic Violence Treatment Check-In & Check-Up

Dr. B's DV Prevention & Education Blog: My Domestic Violence Treatment Check-In & Check-Up (drbsdvpreventionandeducation.blogspot.com) 

The Phenomenon of Jealousy and How it Relates to Domestic Violence

Respect Letter

The Often-Times Challenging Journey from Trauma to Hope and Confidence for People with Domestic Violence Offenses

"Getting Ready to Take Accountability for my DV Offense."  Accountability Practice Letter Worksheet -- 

Valentine's Day and Domestic Violence -- What does Valentine's Day Mean To You?  A Process Approach 

About Relationships: Unhealthy versus Healthy 

Empathy Recognition and It's Potential Role in Preventing Domestic Violence 

Dealing Effectively with Dysfunctional, Destructive, Negative Behaviors and Problems in Relationships

The Vagina Monologues -- Decades of Altruistic Efforts to Improve the Lives of Girls, Women, and Yes; the Entire Planet!

Using Children as a Form of Domestic Violence During a Relationship; and/or Parental Alienation as a Form of DV After the Intimate Relationship is Over

Domestic Violence, Parental Alienation & Child Abuse: A Deadly Intersection

Developing Accountability for a Better Chance at Preventing Domestic Violence and a Brighter Future!

Create Your Emergency Toolkit 

for Prevention of Domestic Violence

>>> Mindfulness and Prevention of DV: 

   Where was I when my DV Happened? <<<

Denial and Domestic Violence

Dr. B's DV Prevention & Education Blog: “Denial and Responsibility -- Which Works Better for Me?” (drbsdvpreventionandeducation.blogspot.com)

and

Please click here to complete Dr. B's Session Feedback Form.

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NOW YOU CAN GO BACK TO THE TOP OF THIS LIST AND KEEP ON PROGRESSING!!!

Accountability Letter Worksheet

Aftercare Planning for Success.

Turn in and Read Your Accountability Letter to The Group

Exit Interview Worksheet

Finally:  if your Evaluation and all of your Treatment Sessions have not been paid for, you must pay for them before you can be successfully Discharged. 

How Might an Otherwise, Loving and Generally Worth-It Relationship Survive CONFLICT???

DRAFT POST.  

PLEASE DO NOT DUPLICATE OR COPY OR QUOTE:

Many Relationship Die at, or, just before; or just after a point of Conflict.

Nonetheless, Many Relationship Survive Conflict; and some even some grow out of Conflict.  Like the people arise from the conflict better or smarter than before.

So what is it that destroys a Relationship during or after a Conflict?

• It depends: 
• Was this conflict about a negotiable matter?
• Were both partners willing and able to negotiate?  (Generally it takes at least two to do this.)
• Did the conflict happen as a result of ulterior motives?
• Or Was the conflict started as a means to an END of the relationship?
• Or was the conflict truly started in order to solve a problem?

  But let's go back a minute: What is Conflict?  There are probably numerous ideas around the definition of Conflict.  And perhaps different types of Conflicts have different types of Parameters.

  According to AI, Conflict may be defined as:  

"Conflict is a disagreement or struggle between two or more people or groups. It can also refer to a mental struggle that results from incompatible needs, drives, or wishes."

"Types of conflict:

Interpersonal conflict: A disagreement between two or more people, such as family members, friends, or co-workers.   

  Romantic Partners could fall under this category.

Intragroup conflict: Conflict between two or more members of the same group or team -- (Or Couple Perhaps in some cases).

Intergroup conflict: Conflict between groups, such as between political parties or organizations 

Intrapersonal conflict: Conflict within a person, such as a struggle between personal goals or values"

What are some Causes of conflict: 

Personality differences: People with different traits may have disagreements

Power struggles: Conflicts can arise over power in the workplace, relationships, or society

Poor communication: Misinterpretations and lack of non-verbal cues can lead to conflict

Change: Major changes, such as changing jobs or relationships, can cause tension (SOURCE.)"

 

Other Causes of Conflict: Ego, Pride, Offensive Words or Behaviors, Threats, Cheating. 

*** The  bottom line is that CONFLICTS Can PUT AN END TO 

OTHERWISE WONDERFUL Relationships. ***  

Okay... So, How Does One Resolve Conflicts?

  Perhaps the best way would be to Resolve Our Conflicts without Destroying or Walking Away from Otherwise Healthy Relationship?

  But if it is an unhealthy relationship; JUST Learn how to WALK AWAY without a conflict. 

  Some ideas include:

   Maybe Talk through it.  Work it out.  Act like it never happened.  

  Sometimes we can resolve Conflict through Mea Culpa:  "Mea culpa, which means "through my fault" in Latin, comes from a prayer of confession in the Catholic Church. Said by itself, it's an exclamation of apology or remorse that is used to mean "It was my fault" or "I apologize." Mea culpa is also a noun, however."  (Source.)

 Truth is; one can fall on one's own sword any time they wish.  However; it's now healthy for them, or for the other party.  And it often ends up making the relationship worse in the long run.

"Healthy conflict resolution primarily includes ingredients like:

•  active listening, 
•  clear communication, 
•  empathy, 
•  understanding underlying needs, 
•  collaborative problem-solving, 
•  honesty with self and then others,
•  being attentive to the other person,
•  assertive expression (NOT Aggressive), and 
•  a focus on finding win-win solutions; essentially, prioritizing open dialogue, respecting perspectives, and working together to reach a mutually agreeable outcome." (AI Source.)

Other possible tools for help solve conflict could include:

  Patience.

  Humility.

  Respect for Self and for others.

  Compromise.

  No bullying.

  Valuing Everyone Present.  

  Courageous introspection.  

  

  Relationships After or Before Conflict...

  How do we Resolve CONFLICT???

What WORKS?

    WHAT DOES NOT WORK?