Balancing the Humors

The Four Humors of Physical Life:   

  In ancient times one Philosopher came up with the Four Humors.  Hippocrates postulated the idea that: "Greek physician Hippocrates (ca. 460 BCE–370 BCE) is often credited with developing the theory of the four humors—blood, yellow bile, black bile, and phlegm—and their influence on the body and its emotions."  (SOURCE.)

"What are the 4 personality humors?

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According to Galen, the imbalance of pairs resulted in one of the four temperament categories (or personality types): 

  sanguine (being optimistic and social),

  choleric (being short-tempered and irritable), 

  melancholic (being analytical and quiet), 

  and phlegmatic (being relaxed and peaceful)."  (SOURCE.)

Theologically speaking, the colors:

"Colors of the Holy Spirit in the liturgical year

The color red is associated with the Holy Spirit in the liturgical year. It is used during Passion, Pentecost, Confirmation, and to represent the Holy Spirit. The color red is associated with the Holy Spirit because of the tongues of flame that are said to have appeared over the heads of people on the day of Pentecost. 

Other colors and their associated meanings include:

Purple -- Associated with spirituality, the imagination, and the unknown. 

White -- Associated with purity, spirit, cleanliness, and order. 

Green -- Associated with nature, harmony, new beginnings, good health, and life. 

Yellow -- Associated with optimism, endless possibilities, and lifting the spirits. 

Blue -- Associated with peace, trustworthiness, calm, stability, and serenity. 

Orange -- Associated with enthusiasm, energy, and creativity. "  (SOURCE).

"Here are some colors and their associations with relationships:

Red -- A universal color that represents eternal love, passion, and strong emotions.  It can also signify power, courage, and strength. 

Green -- Can help keep marriages and other unions together.  It can also indicate that there is a need for growth and transformation in a relationship. 

Violet -- Can represent loyalty, devotion, and faithfulness. 

White -- Can represent peace, politeness, purity of heart, innocence, balance, harmony, and courage. Brides often wear white to convey their spirituality. 

Black -- Can represent luxury and appear more substantial and expensive. 

Blue -- Can symbolize depth, trust, faith, and honest communication. It can also help facilitate communication and open us up to others. 

Orange -- Can signify friendship and togetherness. It can also show confidence, excitement, and a willingness to take the lead in relationships. 

Pink -- Can symbolize romance, playfulness, tenderness, and cuteness. It can also be associated with optimism and delight." 

The Colors Associate with Emotions:

"What colors represent what feelings?

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Red: Passion, Love, Anger.

Orange: Energy, Happiness, Vitality.

Yellow: Happiness, Hope, Deceit.

Green: New Beginnings, Abundance, Nature.

Blue: Calm, Responsible, Sadness.

Purple: Creativity, Royalty, Wealth.

Black: Mystery, Elegance, Evil.

Gray: Moody, Conservative, Formality."

The point of this is the for a very long 

 "If my spiritual, emotional and psychological self doesn't outweigh my romantic, social and political self when it comes to the Judgment of others in their relationships with me; then perhaps my spiritual, emotional and psychological self." 

Let's break it down -- What do these concepts mean in relation so each other:

If my spiritual, emotional and psychological self doesn't outweigh my romantic, social and political self when it comes to the Judgment of others in their relationships with me; then perhaps my spiritual, emotional and psychological self need some work." 

If my ,,,

My spiritual self -- "Spiritual means relating to the spirit or soul, or to sacred or religious matters. It can also mean relating to deep feelings and beliefs, or being joined in spirit. For example, you might describe someone's poetry as having a spiritual dimension, or describe your own life as a spiritual journey."

My emotional self -- "There are many faces of emotional love. If you want to hold someone close to you, take all their fears away, and protect them at any cost, this means you are emotionally attracted to them. You want to share every moment of your life with the person you are emotionally attracted to."

My psychological self -- "The psychological self is the study of how a person's identity is represented cognitively, affectively, or conatively. It's a complex, unique, and enduring combination of activities that involve knowing and wanting. The psychological self can be thought of as an agent that organizes activities into personality patterns, and then evaluates those patterns based on environmental demands."

My romantic self -- "The Romantic self is a concept that emerged during the Romantic period and is characterized by a privileged interiority and a focus on the individual: 

Self-expression -- The Romantic self is a "core" plus an expression of that core. 

Nature -- Romantics believed in nature and felt a connection to it, seeing it as a reflection of the human spirit. 

Individualism -- Romanticism celebrated the individual, especially those living in isolation or in nature. 

Free will -- Romantics believed in the power of free will and exercised it in their lives. "

My social self -- "The social self is how people perceive themselves in relation to others, and how they present themselves to others. It can also refer to the different versions of a person's self that they adopt depending on the situation. The social self is fluid and can change depending on the context or the situation."

My political self -- "Political identity is a form of social identity marking membership of certain groups that share a common struggle for a certain form of power. This can include identification with a political party, but also positions on specific political issues, nationalism, inter-ethnic relations or more abstract ideological themes."

Let's revisit this one more time -- What do these concepts mean in relation so each other:

If my spiritual, emotional and psychological self doesn't outweigh my romantic, social and political self when it comes to the Judgment of others in their relationships with me; then perhaps my spiritual, emotional and psychological self need some work." 

Change Happens: Grieving As A Natural Part Of Life / And How Grief sometimes relates to DV

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People Pass On, Couples Break Up, and/or Relationships Change

As Humans, we endure a lot of losses.    Elizabeth Kubler-Ross came up with some Stages of grieving.  They included:

  It is natural and normal when grieving to be crying, and telling everyone everything about the situation, and to angry and cussing, and even hating some... It is normal to have some feelings of despair, hopelessness, anger, sadness, loss, feeling lost, confused, exhausted, sleeping, don't want to go on, anxious, nervous, 

The 5 Stages of Grieving:

• Denial
• Anger 
• Bargaining
• Depression 
• Acceptance.

DO we really move PAST our Grief?

OR

DO we really move THROUGH our Grief?

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About Relationship Grief, AI Says:

"The five stages of grief that can occur after a relationship ends are:

Denial: A state of disbelief where you might think you'll get your partner back 

Anger: A natural emotion that can involve feelings of betrayal, resentment, or injustice. Anger can be directed at your ex or yourself. 

Bargaining: A phase where you might try to make the relationship work by negotiating, threatening, or promising to change. 

Depression: A state of sadness where you realize the relationship is over 

Acceptance: The ideal place to get to, but the stages are non-linear and you might move back and forth between them 

While these stages are a framework to help rationalize the grieving process, everyone grieves differently and in their own time. You might not experience all the stages, or the order in which you experience them might be different. If you're still having trouble functioning after six months, therapy can help. 

To cope with grief, you can:

Allow yourself to transition through the stages with self-compassion 

Express your emotions through journaling, exercise, or talking to a trusted confidant 

Connect with others and your support networks "  (Source.)

Stages of Grief After A Break-Up:

"Stages ofGrief After a Breakup Breaking up is not easy. Whether it's a breakup from a boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, life partner or even a best friend, it takes time for wounds to heal. Even ifyou were the one who initiated the split, there are five stages ofgrief that you will go through. They are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, according to Mental-Health-Matters. These are the natural ways for your heart to heal. 

Denial Denial is your brain's automatic response to unwanted news, according to "How to Survive the Five Steps ofGrief after a Breakup. " Denial gives your heart time to adjust to the new situation. In the denial phase you may think that your significant other is coming back to you. Everybody spends different amounts of time in the denial phase. It is wise to turn to your friends and family for support. 

Anger It is normal to be angry at your former partner, claims the website Mental-Health-Matters. You may resent her for causing you pain or for breaking up your family. It is important in this phase not to make any rash decisions that you may later regret. Wait until you are less emotional suggests the website, Healt~ Guide. Allow yourself to work through your anger, perhaps by exercising or drawing. Expressing your feelings in a journal is a way to release your emotions. 

Bargaining In the bargaining phase you will try to restore your relationship or perhaps rebuild it as a friendship. This can be disastrous advises the life guide website, Relationship Life Tips. The site reminds those in pain that romantic relationships involve qualities that don't disappear immediately. Trying to befriend an ex, especially soon after the breakup, will only keep the pain ofheartbreak fresh. You can salvage your pride by starting anew without your ex. 

Depression It's normal to be sad. At this point in your grieving, you come to terms with the fact that the situation is not going to change, claims Mental-Health-Matters. This is a time for reflection. You may want to be alone. Realize the kindness ofothers is not intended to upset you. Instead, rely on your support system to keep you distracted from your grief, recommends Articles Base. Help Guide reminds those in pain to resist the temptation to turn to drugs, alcohol or food. Those habits can be destructive. Rather, eat well, sleep well and exercise advises Help Guide. 

Acceptance It's natural to harbor a place in your heart for loved ones. Special relationships make you who you are. However, in the final stage ofgrief after a breakup, you will begin to piece together what happened, accept the breakup and acknowledge the part you played in it, advises Help Guide. The site suggests using this as an opportunity to learn from mistakes from the past and carry those lessons into the future. This is the healthiest way to fully accept a breakup and grow as an individual. The pain may not be gone completely yet, but time will heal those wounds. "  (Source.)

Then There are the Seven Stages of Grief Following A Relationship Break-Up (According to AI):

"The seven stages of grief are a template for how people may grieve the loss of a relationship, but not everyone experiences them in the same order or at the same pace: 

Shock and disbelief: A state of numbness where you might behave normally or as if nothing has happened 

Denial: Your brain's way of spacing out your feelings so you can only acknowledge what you can handle at the moment 

Anger and resentment: You might lash out or feel confused or embarrassed by your anger 

Bargaining and negotiation: You might make promises to yourself or a higher power, or feel guilty or to blame 

Depression and sadness: You might feel isolated and lonely while processing the loss 

Acceptance and healing: You might start to accept the breakup and see it as a lesson 

Growth and moving on: You might start dating again or feel ready to move on 

Grief symptoms usually lessen after 1–2 years, but they can reappear later in response to triggers. If you're still having trouble functioning after 6 months, you can consider talking with a therapist. A mental health professional can offer support and teach coping mechanisms. "  (Source.)

SO WHAT DOES the PROCESS of Grieving DO TO YOUR LIFE OR  TO A RELATIONSHIP in the Future or the Past???

1. It can help you understand for your future relationsihps.....  
1. (Like how to go about them).
2. How bob and weave better.
3. Weave the story of your recent relationship into the stofy of your life.
2. Allows you to eventually see a brighter future, a better path.
3. Helps you understand your emotions and your behaviors.
4. Encourages you to accept WHAT IS.
5. Inspires you to make better life choices in the future.
6. Helps you understand your emotions adn how to control them.